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Any situation that would warrant a comment like, "are we in high school?"
I've only defriended a couple of people. One was a guy who DH and I know pretty well, he's come over to our house more times than I can count for dinner, parties, etc. He was invited to the wedding and RSVP'ed yes, although I did have to chase him down a bit for his RSVP. About a week before the wedding I noticed his FB status was asking who was going to some party on Saturday night and all I could think was "ummm I hope you're not since you're supposed to be coming to the wedding...". He then put that he wasn't feeling well, so I put a response something along the lines of "I hope you're feeling better in time for the wedding on Saturday! Get your dancing shoes on! We're looking forward to seeing you!" just in case he had forgotten or whatever. Guess who was a no-show? Inexcusable. I removed him from my friends list pretty quickly. If you don't want to come fine, but don't put on your stupid FB that you're going to some other party! Jerk!
I delete people fairly regularly on facebook, but not because of things they do or say. If I feel we have drifted apart and I no longer have any connections to them other than a class 3 years ago they get the bump :)
i clean my list once every 2-3 months. just deleting them though - not blocking them. no point in blocking people for me though since i have a restricted page, so its not like you can see anything if you arent my friend anyway.
I hide folks who I still care about but bombard my newsfeeds with useless information or status updates. I periodically go into their profile to see what they are up to, view pictures, etc. At the same time, they are privy to my status updates and new photo postings.
I unfriend those I no longer want to be associated with. I don't care to know what they are up to and would prefer that they are not updated with mine. When friends have turned into acquaintances, then have drifted apart altogether. Or when we no longer have anything in common. I've deleted ex co-workers that I have not kept in contact with and don't care to get in touch with.
I hide people who complain about their lives in each status, people who brag about their weddings/being pregnant every single status, people who continually get facebook apps. I rarely mention my wedding on my status. I've blocked a few people that I don't care for. I don't defriend that often, but after a few years of never talking to someone, there's no reason to keep them as a friend. I originally set up my facebook for networking, but honestly, that hasn't really happened much.
I hide people who post incessant updates about the same thing (like one friend posted about 15 times in one day about a concert she was attending), people I don't really care about that I just accepted their friend request to be nice, and people who play Farmville and Mafia Wars non-stop.
I had to block and unfriend a couple people during the last election.
I hide people if I want to keep up with, but they post a trajillion times a day about being pregnant, how awesome their husband/wife is, their cotton on Farmville or random stuff like that.
People get deleted if I've lost touch with them. If I haven't talked to them or interacted with them in ages, they get the boot! They also get deleted if they're extremely obnoxious!
@Chillmer: I had to delete a few friends during the last presidential election who became too liberal or too conservative and were spewing hateful, libelous stuff.
If there's a bunch of annoying updates from someone that's filling up my newsfeed, I'll hide them. If it's someone who added me as a friend when we've met only once and haven't ever communicated with again, there comes a time when I'll delete them.
Or you can be like me, NEVER join FB. Although sometimes it's more trouble than it's worth because my friends keep harrassing me asking why I haven't joined FB and I keep telling them "If you want to get in touch with me, you will find a way" To be truthful though, I don't hear about FB snafus from my friends, I just don't want to keep in touch with folks :(
I've only defriended a couple people that post all the time and send out TONS of mass messages or mass invites to stuff. I hate, hate, hate those. It just clogs up my email. I hide lots of people. Mostly ones whose status updates start to annoy me. I hide one of my best friends fiances and I would delete him if it would go unnoticed...but it wouldn't. He only talks angry political talk and it's so annoying. I don't care what anyone elses political opinions are, especially not all day everyday on facebook.
An old high school friend of mine recently posted a picture of his wife's VAGINA as they were cutting the cord. I mean it was a top view, but definitely recognizable. Where else would the slimy purple cord be coming from? Really... you really just posted a picture of that? What does your wife think about her most private parts being exposed to 600 of your closest friends?
DELETE. After I finish gagging.
@aberry: Ick.
Usually I only defriend if I have lost touch. However, there was individual I met through a band program that I tolerated as a facebook friend for two years. However, over the past year he kept posting things that were very derogatory towards practitioners of *any* religion. I understand he is sensative about being gay but really? You expect tolerance for your practices but have zero for mine, and then make snide comments about "closed minded people"? Yeah. no.
I've blocked people like my aunt, who puts up nonsensical comments and just plain annoys me with her attempts to pretend she weighs 90lbs instead of 180 (she isn't fooling anyone).
@aberry: If I were you, I would have flagged the picture for removal. If I were the wife, I'd be so very angry! Gross.
i recently de freiended my aunts and cousin. they were sending me messages telling me i was worthless and i dont know what family means and that i am a waste of oxygen...yea it was harsh. but i deleted AND blocked them. all that was because i refused to make a promise i knew i couldnt keep. they wanted me to drive to cali (yes its only 8 hours) to see them. now this normally isnt a problem when both FI and i are working but right now we are more than broke...
At the time my husband and i were just dating and we went on a cruise together. It was one of the happier moments in my life but when i returned it was one of the worst days of my life. His "best" friend and his wife were super pissed that we went on this trip "in sin" and they went over the my husbands house and CRIED with his parents...everyone was gossiping while we were gone and we were hit with WAY to much crap.
I decided if they cant tell me to my face then they arent friends. I deleted them from facebook.
I have deleted people that i didn't really know. i say this because in our service sorority we added the pledges every year and i honestly didn't really get to know many of them in the end. Also there are some people who i no longer talk to for various reasons that i have deleted- a bad roommate for example!
And my most resent delete was some people that were all about the shock effect all the time! they would post the most disgusting things- them posing with a naked man at the san francisco gay pride parade was the final draw!
@ aberry- i just saw what you wrote and that is by far the worst thing i have ever heard of being put on fb! especially by her husband- someone that should respect her privacy and all the most!! omg ugh
I delete the random people from high school who friend me although we were never friends. I usually accept their friend request, snoop their page, and then delete them. Yeah, I'm ruthless.
@bree72: I've hide my status updates from certain people from high school because I love reading about who they were so popular in high school, now they're divorced with kids and miserable. it's bad, but I don't care. I let what I thought of them effect me for far too long.
i delete people that either
a) i no longer talk to and would never talk to them again because we just fell out of contact. you know, like that guy in algebra that sat next to you freshman year of college who you never saw again.
or
b) say derogatory comments on their wall. i understand you may not be able to control what someone else posts on your wall but you can certainly control what comes out of your own mouth and i don't wish to associate with people like that.
I delete folks regularly for the reasons pps have stated. I consider it maintenence. If we've lost touch, or only were acquaintences in HS I don't want you on my page forever so I accept see what's up with you then eventually delete. Or there have been co-workers that I have accepted then thought better of it and deleted. I really like to keep work and my personal life separate. So unless it's someone that i know won't blab my every FB move to people at work, I don't accept co-workers.
Otherwise, I've only deleted one person because he repeatedly posted inappropriate comments on my statuses, pics, etc.
Other folks whose statuses annoy me, I just hide from my newsfeed.
I have deleted people who friended me because we went to the same high school 15 years ago in high school but haven't spoken since. I don't knw why I even initially accepted their friend request in the first place - I don't now. I have hidden only one person - FI's BM - because a LOT of his comments and status updates are offensive.
@Bakerella....Thanks for posting. I was debating back and forth about deleting a person who no-showed to our wedding. She had posted on my wall "OMG, I can't wait for the wedding! I wouldn't miss it for the world". Then when we had to follow up with her because we hadn't receievd her RSVP card....she said she was sorry that she forgot to send it out but would do so that same day. After still no RSVP, we followed up with her yet again and she said she had sent it and that it must have just gotten lost in the mail. She even told us she would be bringing her girlfriend instead of her live in BF. Then guess what, she never freaking showed! No call, no nothing! I am super livid with her as she posts crap all the time on the home page feed....I am so livid that just seeing her face pic gets me really upset all over again. I thought it would be a lil "high school" to delete her but since I know I wouldn't be the only one, I am soooo doing it right now! hehehehehehehe.........
I've accepted friend request from a ton of people I'm not really even friends with. At some point, I need to get around to de-friending them.
To answer your question, I'd remove someone as a friend if I didn't feel comfortable with them having access to my profile and information.
Blegh. I unfriend people who make racist comments, violent comments, or negative, unfounded political opinions (saying Barack is a terrorist, etc.).
I hide people who invite me to help them farm, tend their aquarium, or send them hearts/flowers/pets. It makes me want to punch a puppy in the face.
@Masala.....LMFAO!!!! My cousin does that all the damn time...I swear if she sends me 1 more freaking heart I am going to puke!
"It makes me want to punch a puppy in the face".....OMG....I can't stop laughing!!!!
My SIL who blocks me and unblocks me on a regular bases. I find she usually unblocks me when it's about that time that I might post pictures of our shower, wedding, honeymoon, etc. She did not show up at my shower or wedding and sent a gift to neither all while sending me awful emails to make me cry during the wedding process. But since I blocked her I have now been blocked by my husband's entire family. I feel like facebook is like bad junior high drama, I keep debating on whether to get rid of it.
The Gloss wrote an article about this very thing yesterday: http://thegloss.com/odds-and-ends/how-to-get-defriended/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+b5media%2Fthegloss+%28TheGloss%29
It made me laugh :)
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Out of curiosity, what situations would lead you to go from simply hiding someone on your friend list to defriending them altogether?