Dealing with friends of husband to be and ex-wife

posted 2 years ago in Encore
Post # 2
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That’s totally fine. I invited a girl to my bachelorette party but her boyfriend is not close with my husband, so he didn’t go to the bachelor party. My bffs did the same for theirs. I don’t see a problem with it!

Post # 3
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

If the women are pleasant to you but don’t socialize with you, invite you out with them etc, then it isn’t necessary to include them in the shower, especially if it will be awkward for you. But if your FI has been good friends with the men for years & would enjoy them being at his bachelor party, by all means invite them. You’re not excluding the women from the evening portion of the wedding, which they are invited to attend as your neighbours- I would be fine with this if I was one of the neighbourhood ladies and my SO was invited to the bachelor party.


Post # 4
1771 posts
Buzzing bee

It’s totally cool for him to invite the guys to the bach party and you not invite the ladies to the shower. I think everyone will understand the situation and probably wouldn’t be expecting an invitation to your shower anyway.

Post # 5
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Its perfectly acceptable to not invite ladies that were close with your FI’s ex. Our best man’s wife is best friends with my boyfriend’s ex-wife, and while I like her as a person, we’ve never been that close and I do not feel comfortable inviting her to my shower/bachelorette. 

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