- 8 years ago
Okay, just to be honest, I did not want kids at the reception, BUT for reasons that are 100% valid, and would take way too long to get into in this post, my fiance requested that I just let it go, and we ultimately made out a fair number of invites that say “And family” on them.
That being said, I have a few cousins who are young, and I am just simply NOT a child person. I am happy for my loved ones that they have and love their children, but for the most part, kids younger than middle school age usually just get on my nerves.
I am considering the following things in regards to the reception. Since I’m having trouble viewing it objectively, I was hoping some of you who like (or have) children could help me make sure I’m not being offense, because while I don’t like kids, I don’t really want to offend anyone either. 🙂
Okay, here’s what I’m considering:
1) Asking our photographer not to waste time taking a lot of kid pictures. I know some people think they’re cute, but I don’t want her spending her time taking photos of little kids who I don’t know or care about, when she could be taking pictures of guests who I DO care about. Obviously this conversation would be only between my photog and I, but I’m worried one aunt and uncle in particular will be upset if there are no pictures of their daughter in our wedding album.
2) We’re having a faux-to-booth (faux photobooth), provided by our photographer. I am planning to make a cute sign encouraging people to take pictures, and the DJ will mention it during dinner. I’d like to put on the bottom of the sign, “Please do not allow children to use the photobooth unsupervised” and have the DJ mention something like, “Parents, if your kids want to take pictures, please help them out.”
My biggest worry is that it will probably be in the lobby entrance area, which is through 2 sets of double doors from the dance floor/dinner room, so it would be very easy for kids to go running around out there and break something, like an expensive camera or the backdrop or whatever. Is it offensive to ask parents to supervise their kids? Because I know some of my relatives might not on their own accord – they get in groups and their mentality seems to be, “Oh, my kid is cute, someone will watch them, i.e. a nice break from parenting for me!” Again, not ALL of the parents who plan to attend are this way, but SOME are.
3) Finally, we’re going to have a sparkler send off at the end of the evening. Obviously I assume most of the younger kids will have gone home by 11pm, but if there are any left, I know that sparklers can be dangerous. Can I put on that sign, “Please do not give sparklers to children” ?
(To be totally honest, I also really don’t like the idea of the sparklers being used to play with a toddler instead of for our photos. I realize that’s probably the most bratty thing I’ve ever said/written/thought, and I’m embarrassed of it.)
Okay, am I being totally insensitive here? Or am I justified in wanting to minimize the kid-effect on my big day?
Don’t worry about being honest – I want honest opinions and have a thick enough skin not to be offended if you call me a loony or selfish or whatever on the internet 🙂