Post # 1
Aaah! I just want to pull my hair out!! My fiance and I are plannig a semi-destination wedding… We live in PA and are having our wedding in Colorado where we met and he is from… To us our budget is pushing it and we are getting minimal help from family.. I know family would contribute if they could, but just don’t have the means to be able to..
..Todays dissucssion with my mom wanted me to pull the whole plug on the wedding, I just can’t take it…It started with we have an outdoor venue and we will be renting a tent for just in case it rains.. I’m not planning on sticking everything inside of the tent, because chances are it will not rain when we’re having our wedding.. I said we wanted to go with the 8′ rectangle tables because we can have the smaller tent. If we did round tables we have to spend an extra $600 for a larger tent… Well don’t you know, I’m inconsiderate and not thinking of my guests because guests are incapable of having conversations are rectangular tables and I’m being selfish trying to cram everyone in a smaller tent…
..Our band is no good because it is a bluegrass band.. and not everyone likes bluegrass.. Umm well we’re in the middle of nowhere Colorado where you’re closest Walmart and chain hotel is 1+ hours away… If you don’t want to experience Colorado and the music it offers, don’t travel and bitch at me it wasn’t an East Coast Wedding..
When did weddings become about doing what the guests who may not even come like and not caring about what the bride and groom want. And will by wedding really be ruined by not having round tables??
Sorry! Am I wrong here?
Post # 3
@Dixiesgirl: Thanks for the laugh! I can totally understand where you’re coming from! No, I don’t know of a wedding that has been a disaster because of the shape of the tables (unless one collapsed or something!). In my case my momzilla was acting that way because she never really got to have a wedding, do any of the fun things, and my parent’s fully admit that their wedding was the worst they’ve ever been to. It sounds like she’s trying to plan her wedding rather than help with yours.
If it helps I took my mom out to lunch (just the two of us girls) and when things were relaxed I thanked her for bringing up some good points and things to consider, I also came up with some special takes that she could do. I do ask her opinion on things, but still make the decision my FI and I want.
As for weddings being about the guests, yes it seems that this is more the case now. I think that’s part of the reason eloping is so attractive. That’s why it’s important that you plan the wedding you want. I think about what my guest’s might like but in the end you’re the one getting married and if they don’t like the flavor of the cake, or the color of the linens, well tough we’ve all been to weddings where we think ‘I would have done it differently.’
Post # 4
@Dixiesgirl: I wish my venue offered rectangular tables – I much prefer them.
Sorry about your momzilla – do your own thing!! Your plans sound wonderful!! *HUGS*
Post # 5
Definitely going throug that with my mom too. It’s YOUR day. Go with what you love! Your bluegrass band sounds fun!
Post # 6
@renwoman: I think you’re right about mom trying to plan ‘her’ wedding and how she would like things done.. Back when she was married it was in a church and reception back at the house…
Thank you girls!! Thanks for the support! It makes me feel better that I’m not crazy about wanting my ideas..
Post # 7
@Dixiesgirl I know exactly how you feel. My mumzilla keeps inviting her friends who I have never met without telling me as well as critisising the church I have chosen (because there are gravestones at the side. It is over 100 years old stone church), and telling me I am a lunatic for not wanting to wear a tiara/crown with my veil as well a big blingy necklace (my dress is already crazy over the top and doesn’t need these details).
No it won’t matter what shape the tables are and who cares about a smaller tent. People will survive. You won’t if you go into debt (well you know what I mean)
Post # 8
Haha, the thing about the tables is really funny because we’re actually opting out of round tables to make it easier for people to talk. We’re going to do two or three longer tables, comprised of the dreaded rectangles, so that people have a bit more options on who to talk to, and so that the mood is more relaxed (less like a restaurant, more like a family reunion). There’s a reason most dinner tables are rectangles instead of circles. In either case, I really doubt the shape of tables will bring your wedding crashing down!
You could google some pretty pictures of rectangular tables to give her a better idea of what’s going on. You could also tell her of the other merits they have – less money spent on centerpieces, more possibilities in how to arrange them, etc. etc.
But ultimately you’re probably going to have to let her tantrum it out. She can flip out all she wants, Colorado will still be Colorado! If you want an outdoors wedding, do an outdoors wedding. She’ll see how awesome it is on the day and love it anyway. For now you’ll just have to let her complaints go in from one ear and straight out the other.