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Right after our wedding, I became pregnant.  I mean, the first week after our wedding. Husband and I are both thrilled, but even we were a little surprised at how quickly we became pregnant (we are both "older" and I am overweight).  I was nervous about telling some people, especially because we have friends who have been trying for a LONG time to get pregnant, and to be honest we did feel guilty that it happened so quickly for us.

Anyways, we have told everyone, and 99.9% are excited for us. Especially our friends that haven't been able to concieve yet (which didn't help the guilty feeling!).  But we do have one couple that are not happy with us, and I don't know how to deal with them, or what to say to them. They are good friends, and last year the wife even pulled me aside to say "you better have kids soon, because you two aren't getting any younger" (in a nice way!).  And this couple have 4 children of their own, and don't want anymore children, so I don't know/understand what they are upset about. Right now they are avoiding us, and almost refuse to talk about children or babies. And I know with the Christmas season coming up we are going to see them at a few parties and I don't want their to be any akwardness.

Any advice?

I honestly don't talk about the baby unless someone asks me.  And of course friends are asking/have asked, and we keep our responses rather short/generic "Yes, we are excited, yes it was a surprise, the baby is due ____", and that's it. 

And I am sure/hope they have a good reason, I just wish I knew what it was so I could try to fix it.

Do you know for a fact they aren't happy with you, and that's it's because you're pregnant?.. I just wonder if you're adding 2 and 2 and making 5. Perhaps they've been busier than usual and have been a bit lax with communication/keeping in touch? Or if it's more that they don't talk about the baby/pregnancy, maybe they don't realise this is an issue?

Otherwise, this is a tricky one; maybe they actually do want another child and can't conceive? Maybe they don't want more children, but feel a bit jealous seeing someone have a child, and wish they could have another/experience pregnancy/childbirth/raising a small baby again? Either way I'm not sure I'd broach it just yet, though if they're still being funny in a couple of months, and you were close previously, I'd maybe ask if they're OK as they've seemed a little off recently, and take it from there.

eh, I have some friends that have been weird since I've become pregnant. Friends that I used to go out to dinner with all the time, that never ask or want to go anywhere with me these days. It sucks feeling excluded. But I think sometimes some folks just have a harder time seeing you move in a different direction in life and are maybe unsure of what to do? Not necessarily you personally but just the whole being pregnant-starting a family-etc. I've seen it happen with single friends. Like a forever single friend gets married and all of a sudden some of their friends don't know what to do anymore because they're not "the single friend", lol.

@Miss Smurf: They  might have something going on in their lives that is difficult right now... perhaps they had a "surprise" pregnancy that ended in a miscarriage, and they are dealing with that. Who knows.

I would probably approach them and say that you've noticed some distance and wanted to make sure everything was ok between you guys. If they say yes, then just act normal and follow their lead on whether they seem to want to talk about baby things or not. Over time, it might get better.