Post # 1
this weekend we’re going to a get together with my step mom’s family. Her family is LARGE. They’re great people and I wish we could invite them all, but we can’t. We’re inviting her parents and 1 aunt who hosts us at her home for dinner several times a year. How do I handle it if the wedding comes up – or worse, someone not on the list says ‘we’re looking forward to it’ etc…
Post # 3
@MsGinkgo: We haven’t really booked anything yet, we’re in the planning phase. Picking colours and theme and the figuring out the budget which is not as fun.
Yeah the main issue we are having right now, is all the venues we like/can afford have a smaller capacity and both fi and I have really big families. Makes it tough.
OR more blunt
*head nod* unfortunatley we can’t invite everyone we wish we could. With a huge family and weddings costing a fortune, we have to buckle down take a look at the guest list and make some tough cuts. Now that I know how much it is per plate, we can’t have as many people as we thought we could
Worst that happens she is pissed and immature about it but nice or not if she was THAT important she’d be on the A list. Also all of those responses are in good taste, and not shaming the person or flat out saying “well you are NOT invited…feel free to send a present we’re registered at Bed, Bath and beyond”
Post # 4
@EncoreBridetoBe: should mention that save the dates have gone out so the family members who ARE invited will have received theirs. Didn’t know about this event when we did that….
Post # 5
Blame it on the venue “Fiance and I fell in love with this venue, unfortunately it has a small capacity and we have such large families. We wish we could invite everyone!” or blame it on your budget…