(Closed) DEALING with people who INVITE themselves to your wedding.

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9618 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@rdownie1:  Don’t accept it, it is ridiculous, and DEFINITELY DON’T invite them!!! That will only encourage their behaviour

Post # 4
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@rdownie1:  ive told people who invite them selves to our wedding that i wish i could but am very sorry i cant caz we have reached our guest limit and can not afford to invite more then 115 ppl and thats what we have with our family and close friends. i shut them down ASAP i dont need the drama or to pay the cost to have ppl there that i dont want there its our day!

be strong!! i know its hard ; ) good luck!

Post # 5
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I got a few facebook messages like this frin people I wasn’t even friends with on FB! Like distant relatives and friends I hadn’t heard from in forever who would send a hint-dropping/guilt-trip message along with a friend request. I just didn’t even bother responding, if it’s not someone you even see in real life, who cares? There’s nothing they can do about it!



With people I have to interact with on a more regular basis, like co-workers, I would just say something like, “I’ve been hearing that a lot from people! It’s so nice that everyone cares and wants to come, I wish we had the space and money for it but we’re keeping it pretty small with our close families.” People will get the hint. If they say they’ll never speak to you again or something silly like that I’d just laugh like they must be kidding, because that’s just such a ridiculous thing to say.


Post # 7
8580 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

A few people on facebook keep asking me for invites. I just tell them we already have our guest list. Of course, they ask multiple times, and I just tell them the same things – Guest list is full, we have no space available, we can’t fit anymore guests into the budget.

Whatever comes to mind.

Post # 9
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rdownie1:  Sorry, I had a few annoying co-workers like that too! It is awkward. And unfortunately it doesn’t go away once you’re married…I’m pregnant and have co-workers who say I better name my kid after them. I mean, they must be joking, because seriously?? But I hear it every day and they are so insistent….I don’t get it either! Some people are just weird, lol.

Post # 11
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ignore it. This girl is intense, and probably not someone you really need in your life. Don’t stress over it! I think you handled it very well.

Post # 13
533 posts
Busy bee

Block her and delete her from Facebook. Done! 

Post # 15
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I would stop conversing with her…and unfriend her…she really doesn’t sound like anyone you want in your life.

Post # 16
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@rdownie1:  I wouldnt invite myself to a birthday party at a bar much less a WEDDING, so people that do this are SO far outside my realm of understanding.


If it were me, I wouldnt even have given her as much of an explanation as you have until this point.  Actually, I take that back: if you’ve been trying to give her nice/easy answers to shut her up and spare her feelings and she STILL wont drop it, I’d go ahead and give her the truth, ESPECIALLY after her last message:


“Listen, since you arent very good at reading context clues or taking hints, I’ll break it down for you: I only have a limited amount of space at my wedding, I’m sorry that offends you. We arent that close anymore, and we definitely arent going to be now. Bye.”

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