- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
At least once a week I bump into my fiance’s childhood friend’s wife and I’m really dreading it, considering our conversations always turn condesecending on her part but I have no choice to avoiding her as sometimes I can’t make it for the earlier bus. We’ll make small chat and I’ll be polite, but she always finds ways to be competitive or belittle my wedding ideas and life in general.
Recently I told her about a distant aunt that part-owns a restaurant in another district. So that weekend, she went out of her way to have lunch there to talk to that aunt! Then she’d message me, asking what my aunt calls me and to explain myself because she said she mentioned my name but the aunt didn’t know who she was talking about and if I was making things up? (I’ve only seen the aunt 4-5 times in my life and she only knows me by my nickname as that’s what my parents call me around her).
Then last week she asked me my wedding date and who my bridesmaids were. I told her date ideas, talked about my girls and gave little descriptions about height and such, made mention one was racially different… and she had the nerve to giggle and say “haha, can’t wait to see whoever gets paired up with her!!”. THEN the following week, she declares her wedding date a month before mine!
The thing is, it drives me nuts that my fiance thinks she just says and does these things out of curiousity. It makes me feel like I’m paranoid but just the ways she talks, make me feel like she’s trying to get to me.
In such situations, how would you deal with someone like that? She is definitely going to my engagement party this weekend and unfortunately I don’t have a say in having her there, she’s already mentioned sussing everyone out. 🙁