Post # 1
ok so I have a question…. My FI parents went ahead and booked the place for the rehearsal dinner. They did this while my FI was on deployment to Afghanistan. Then his mother randomly sent me a text to ask me when the date would be and then told me they already had the place booked. The place is about 30 minutes north of the church and the location where all the bridesmaids and myself will be spending the night… Does anyone else think this was rude to not even sit down with me and fill me in about what they were thinking about doing before just booking???? I have never been inside this place where they booked. HELP!!!!
Post # 3
Well it would have been nice, but since she is paying for it she does get to decide. My MIL chose one 50 minutes away from where my and my girls would be staying. It was a pain in the ass. And I wanted a low key dinner. She wanted a fancy dress up dinner. Guess who won? Her.
Its the MIL’s major involvment in the wedding and likely she just wants to be involved and be able to make decisions and have an impact on the event she is paying for. I am sure she didnt really think it would be a problem.
Post # 4
Since its the rehersal dinner, just let it be. Yes, @ times in-laws will overstep their boundaries but this is just the rehersal dinner.
Post # 5
My FIL’s are paying for the rehearsal dinner, so we really don’t have a say. I actually wish they would just make a decision for once and pick a place instead of trying to put it on our lap. We have enough on our plate.
Post # 6
This is just how I roll, but I am so glad that my inlaws booked a place because its one less thing I have to worry about. They will be in their glory to have had a part in their son’s wedding. Now I can focus my energy on making the rest of the wedding what I want. But like I said, it’s my style not to micromanage every detail.
Post # 7
I feel your pain… its nice that they wanted to help out but your imput matters!! I had the same thing happen to me. I made my FI stand up for himself and I… I had him speak with his mother and say that its OUR day and we would like say in it. Just let them know that you would like to check the place out and part of the fun in planning, is actually PLANNING, lol.. at least she didnt make the invites (on Power Point) like my FMIL 🙂
Post # 8
I think they are paying for and should do what they want. When and if asked voice your opinion. my MIL is the same way only she ask for my opnion then ignores it. The rehersal dinner doesn’t refelct you or your stye but hers. sometimes i think the rehersal dinner, when hosted by the MIL, it’s her chance to have a wedding all over again selfish but at some point they had it done to them. it’s like initation or something. I only hope I’m not a MIL like that someday.