Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
How did you do it? On anything wedding related.
Our thing is the honeymoon. Apparently an extended camping/roadtrip is not a real honeymoon and our marriage is doomed to fail.
Someone actually asked me this: “why do you want to roll around in the dirt on your honeymoon?”
Also, having one of my closest friends at my bachelorette party. Who happens to be male. My cousins are refusing to plan it because of that, so I probably won’t get one.
Post # 2
I’ve gotten all the “judgeys” from the moment we started planning!
We got engaged last Halloween and decided to just enjoy being engaged for a while before we actually started planning, and apparently, you have to start planning the MINUTE you get engaged or else, well, you’re not normal!
Then my FSIL – who is also a very good friend of mine, got engaged a couple of months after us and set her wedding date the month before us – and is having her reception at the same venue. (It’s FI’s family’s restaurant so I’m not surprised) But then FMIL asked us to move OUR wedding date even though ours was set first. FI was so pissed at his mom that we decided to get married while on vacation (I guess you would call that eloping?) and have a celebration once we get home. So now we’re getting a ton of slack for not having a “traditional” wedding. We’re not having a bridal party, I’m not going to wear a traditional bridal gown and we’re not having the ceremony in a church. Our marriage must be doomed!
But, we’ve stuck to our guns and now that it’s been a few months, the judgeys have gotten over it, and ironically, some of the people that were the most judgmental (FMIL and my oldest sister) are now really excited about our non-traditional celebration!
It’s tough but I have found weddings and babies bring out the worst in people!
Post # 3
AllyCRN: You have to learn to let it roll off of your shoulders. Opinions are like…you know. But it’s your wedding, and you can do whatever you want. These people are not paying for your honeymoon. If you and your FI want to go camping, who really cares? You don’t have to justify wanting to roll around in the dirt to anyone. Also, anyone who thinks a honeymoon destination is a good predictor of whether a marriage will fail or not is clearly a moron, but that’s beside the point. If my family was refusing to plan my bach party for such a dumb reason, I’d plan it myself.
Post # 4
I would respond ” How about , you plan your honeymoon and we’ll plan ours, ok”?
Post # 5
Maybe I’m cold but I really just don’t care what people say.
Post # 6
AllyCRN: You know, something happened along the way where people just say whatever they want to now. I have no idea why. What happened to saying, “Wow, that sounds fun! I hope you enjoy it!” Or whatever. Common decency is a lost art anymore. Sad.
Post # 7
gelaine22: Same. I don’t give a single fuck about what anyone has to say about my choices.
AllyCRN: I think you need to figure out why you care so much what other people think. People can only judge you if you let them, caring too much about what other people think of you and your choices is a waste of time and energy.
Post # 8
Your honeymoon sounds awesome. Don’t let the haters get you down!
Post # 9
I learned to tune out the peanut gallery. If they want to voice their opinions, they will. But, you don’t have to listen to them. And really, you shouldn’t listen to them if you want to stay sane during wedding planning. Your honeymoon choice especially is nobody’s business but yours and your FI’s. For the record, I have a friend who did a camping honeymoon and they had a blast. They love to camp and it worked perfectly for them. We’re also doing a roadtrip-style honeymoon around Arizona and I have no regrets about choosing that over a traditional beach resort. To each their own 🙂
Post # 10
My husband and I did a roadtrip and people thought we were crazy. It was AWESOME!
Post # 11
AllyCRN: my ultimate dream honeymoon would be back packing around Ireland. We can’t do this do to FI health so we are going to wait for our honeymoon until after his transplant. I don’t think you even need to deal with them, just ignore it! Do what makes the two of you happy.
My best friend is male also, Fi best friend is female but we are all really close. Fi best male friend is his female best friends partner and my best friends brother. I actually don’t want a bachelorette party (hen party over in uk) I want us all to go out together.
Why not get you male friend to plan your bachelorette or you plan it with him?
Post # 12
People are going to judge regardless of what you do. Their discomfort with your wedding plans are completely irrelevant.
I’ve gotten all kinds of responses from people when they find out that we’re going to have pizza and chinese food out our wedding. Most people are surprisingly accepting, but the ones that make comments, I just tell them they’re welcome to bring their own food if they have any issues with what we’re serving.
And as for your honeymoon plans – my parents went camping for their honeymoon. They’ve been married over 30 years, so there may be something to that idea.