(Closed) Dealing with uninvolved mom

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Bee
13577 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Hi Rose!  I can totally relate to this.  When I first started talking about the wedding, my mom seemed to not really get why I wanted to have a “big” wedding.  She didn’t seem to really want to listen to me talk about details or anything to do with the wedding really.  I think part of it was dealing with my father’s recent (at the time) death.  I don’t think she could get excited about it when she knew how much he would’ve loved to be there.  But as the wedding gets closer she gotten a lot more excited about it.  She listens patiently to me discuss details with her for long periods of time.  And she seems to actually care!  She’s even helping me with a couple of projects.  I think sometimes it’s hard for people to get excited about something that seems a long way off.  My advice is to continue planning the wedding that you want to have and eventually she will come around and see how important it is to you.  Good luck!

Post # 4
Hostess
4935 posts
Honey bee

i’m going to go out on a limb here. i don’t remember the what the details and what happened when my oldest cousins got married, i was way too young. but when my last cousin (before the 10 year diff between us) got married i understand that her mom was almost the same way. my grandfather passed away before my mom got married but was at everyone else’s wedding (she’s the youngest of 5). i don’t think it’s that she’s still holding on to the past, i think it’s the way things used to be done, where you had the reception at the local VW and the wedding at the church you grew up in. the VW took care of figuring out everything from food to cake and what-have-you. you didn’t have to worry about vegetarians or allergies (as much anyway). i think it’s just stuck in the old ways of doing things.

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