- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
Hi, ladies. I just made it to 15 weeks. Friends and family know. Work knows. Strangers can’t yet tell (so I know this will only get worse). My question is how do/did you deal with unsolicited advice or negative comments regarding pregancy, being a new mom, etc?
Here are a few examples from just the last few days. 1) I commented on FB that I think getting to decorate a new room is reason enough to have a baby. Granted, I was kidding (and noted that) but anyone who knows me knows my love to decorate. That I get to make a room (and lots of the things in it) for our first baby is pretty exciting. A comment I received? “Remember this remark when you are up all night in that darling room, rocking a teething baby!” Um, wow. Thanks for going straight to the negative.
2) I heard from a friend that my SIL told her that she doesn’t think I’m enjoying my pregnancy enough. Huh. Not sure what would lead her to that conclusion or what “enjoying it enough” would look like. This comment bothered me the most.
3) I commented a few days ago about being tired. Not whining. Just commenting. I get all sorts of “you think you’re tired now” and “you’ll be this way for the next 18 years” remarks. Lordy, people. It seems like you can’t make positive or negative comments without folks spouting off something crazy.
Ok, perhaps hormones are contributing to me taking this stuff more personally. But, really, how do you let it roll off your back?