Wedding Anxiety/ Nerves… Share your Stories!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m terrified that I’m going to burst out in tears when I see my mom or my fiance. I don’t want pictures of that 🙂 but I know everything good and bad that happens will just be a great story later. I’m excited to see how it all happens, for better or worse. 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsSmallIsSoTall:  THIS. I’m so afraid of me being in tears half the day. I’m such a sap in emotional situations which is why we are taking pictures before the ceremony because when I cry a lot my eyes get really poofy. It’s also why I want a 15 minute long quick ceremony because I don’t want to be up in front of people for 45 minutes balling my eyes out. I’m so nervous about it.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MissDarthVader:  i never thought about taking pictures beforehand to avoid puffy faced pictures. I’m so traditional, I don’t want to see my FI before. But doing it to calm nerves or have time to fix my face is something to consider. I also have thought about a quick ceremony because I may just get so nervous that I get sick. It’s got nothing to do with the marriage- I just hate being the center of attention!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m afraid that I’ll trip on my walk down the aisle, or that the champagne will go to my head and I’ll make a fool of myself at the reception! 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am BEYOND worried about anxiety day-of.  I’m not worried about actually marrying him, but I have somatic anxiety even when I don’t ‘feel’ anxious.  It makes me nauseated and/or actually vomit most mornings, and it’s worse when I actually consciously feel anxious, so I’m terrified of how I will feel the morning of the wedding.  I just got a Xanax prescription and thank god that helps a bit when it’s bad…  I’m more worried about how I will feel getting ready etc. than at the wedding.  And hey, if you’re most anxious about walking down the aisle, at least you have your dad’s arm to hold you up! 🙂  I’m sure I’ll cry during the ceremony, but I’m okay with that.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@MrsSmallIsSoTall:  I had the same concern about it not being “traditional” – so we have planned to do a “reveal” with just him at the altar and our groomsmen and bridesmaids around us; I’ll walk down with him facing away, and then when i’m close enough, the photographer will prompt him to turn around.  One of my cousins did this, and it was such a magical and special moment.  Then they could take their pictures, and do the ceremony tear-fear-free!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Rachel631:  i didnt want to be given away either, but I still walked down with my Dad. We had some wording at the start to say that my Dad was not giving me away, but accompanied me to symbolise both families’ affirmation of our decision to spend our lives together. We had a humanist wedding so we were able to do whatever wording we wanted. Don’t know if that is an option for you?

As for nerves, mine were awful. I dropped 5lbs in the few days before just on adrenaline, I was terrified Id cry through my vows and embarass myself! As it was I grinned all day long!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@Rachel631:  I’m just going to be an anxious wreck all the way to the church and through the service, and I might have a bit of an existential anxiety-attack afterwards as well.

 

I don’t handle change very well, haha!  I’ve warned my friend I might try and climb out the window beforehand, but she’s promised to have some scheme set up to catch me, possibly involving a pack of specially-trained dogs.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Rachel631:  I vomited 3 times in the hours leading up to my wedding. After all was said and done i realized I had absolutely nothing to be worried about. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have a history of anxiety/panic attacks, though in the last few years I’ve managed to get it more or less under control. That said, I’m really scared about having issues the day of the wedding – or during the wedding, or even in the days leading up to…ugh. Of course, worrying about stress only causes MORE stress, so that’s no good either.

We’re getting married outside, which I hope means at least not feeling stuffy/claustrophobic. Our ceremony is about 30 minutes long (max) and I’m just really hoping to be so happy and so focused on the amazingness of everything that I won’t feel nervous. I will also be taking gravol and immodium as a precaution!!

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am usually anxious about, like, everything, but really I was not anxious at ALL the week before nor the day of.  I was worried that the flowers wouldn’t get done properly, but my friends all pitched in and everything worked perfectly.  I think my anxiety was calmed by the fact that I knew exactly what I was going to wear, and how my hair would be done, and everything.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

@Rachel631:  The last couple of days I’ve been really struggling to get my head around the ‘being married to him’ part. I don’t want anyone other than my FH, we are perfectly happy together, but the ‘married and together forever’ thing is a bit mind-boggling – even though I had no intention of not being with him in the future!

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