- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Hi ladies! Let me begin by saying I’m a newbie, engaged 10/27. My fiance and I live in Chicago and have been together 2.5 years. I’m originally from WI and he’s from MI. It has not even been a week yet and I’ve already shared my first tears of stress -and feel it shouldn’t be this way! Long story short, we have longed for a VERY small and intimate ceremony, as we both don’t care to spend all of this money on a wedding when we just want to begin life as a married couple. We also hope to marry by summer next year. Additionally, we’ve talked about a destination wine country wedding, or something casual and beachy in MI.
I conveyed this to my parents and they were immediately unhappy. For one, they know a destination wedding will eliminate many gift-giving people from attending (pfft). Second, they were hurt I mentioned MI and didn’t even consider WI. Maybe you can understand…some people like to have a wedding “back home” but I am just not feeling it right now. Plus, many of my friends have done weddings there and I wanted to be a bit different.
I just don’t want to set things off on the wrong foot. I know they have their hearts set on a big show so they can invite their own friends and have their own big day. This is not what I want at all. Of course, I want them involved, but would be just as happy eloping. How do I keep them happy, but more importantly keep myself happy with all of this while I’m just getting started? Thank you!