(Closed) Dear Abby column…OMG what are people thinking.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is wife overracting?
    Not a chance, her husband and her friend have something going on : (62 votes)
    95 %
    No way he is innocent and so is her friend. : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    4441 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @TexasSpringBride:  IMO it’s never appropriate to leave the house and not return for long periods of time unless you’re ending the relationship.  Even less appropriate to spend the night at someone else’s house.  

    OF COURSE SOMETHING HAPPENED, “Byron” should have gotten himself a damn hotel room if he didn’t feel that he could go home.

    Post # 4
    Member
    261 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    The something might not have been physical but it will still do damage as he decided to go to the friend’s house.  Doesn’t he have male friends in the area!?

    Post # 7
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    3947 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Two words, “Woman’s Intuition”.

    Post # 8
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    11753 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    if you have to ask dear abby, you’ve already got your answer right there. 

    Post # 9
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    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly, it would depend on the relationship Bryon and this Arlene had.  If they were super close friends and had known each other for a long time, I would give him the benefit of the doubt.  Some of my best friends are guys and if I had a really bad fight with my H and didn’t want to go home, I’d consider crashing at one of their places.  But if Bryon and Arlene were just casual friends, then I would find it very inappropriate.

    Having said that, I do think it inappropriate to just not come home.  I get that he might have needed some space, but that’s when he goes for a drive, comes home after he’s calmed down, and sleeps on the couch instead of the bed.

    I can’t find any of the comments, but it’s definitely his fault if he cheated.  Her nagging isn’t a valid excuse.

    Post # 11
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    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @TexasSpringBride:  I think the husband is in the wrong here and that something did happen.

    Obviously I don’t have all the details, but I don’t think that a normal reaction to having a fight is for your husband to go and sleep at another woman’s home.

    I would go a step further to say that something was probably going on between the two beforehand unless they were really close friends to begin with.

    Post # 13
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    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I voted they have something going on, but I’m not for sure it is ongoing or was just a one night thing.

    Maybe they hooked up. maybe theyjust talked about private matters. Maybe he revealed secrets to her about hs marriage that make her friend uncomfortable. Maybe they are having a long term affair. Who knows, really.

    Post # 14
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Can’t prove something physical happened, but it seems like there’s an inappropriate emotional relatiionship here if his first instinct was to stay the night at this woman’s house after fighting with wife. I agree with others that 1) he shouldn’t have left the house for the whole night and 2) if he really had to do that, he should have stayed with a male friend or gotten a hotel room.

    Post # 15
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    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Arlene and the hubby need the beat down.

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