Post # 1
So my bridesmaids (thus far my bf, and my sister cuz’ my FH has two right now) live out of town- san diego and AZ. I MIGHT see both of them at xmas. Til then I’m on my own. Anyone in the same boat? How do I coordinate this? I have no problem planning on my own, but really sucks not having them there to tell me I look awesome in my dress, lol!
So my sister in law said she would be honored to be a bridesmaid (I originally asked her to be my MOH because she’s in town, but she did not want to get in between me and my sister which was sweet, but I kinda thought she meant she didn’t want to be one at all) my FH has two best friends, and after that its like he would be hurting someone by asking someone else…. all or nothing type deal. So doubtful I will have more than two girls. I could ask my SIL to help and be there, but feel it’s a slap in her face when on my wedding day, I pretty much brush her off to sit in the audience…. I don’t want to hurt any feelers here. Thanks all!
Post # 3
My bridesmaids are in Mississippi and Italy, I am in Japan, and the wedding will be in Florida lol. I am very doubtful that I will see my girls (other than on webcam) until the week of the wedding. To keep them more involved I will send them updates, pictures of everything, run ideas through them, and webcam them in on things like finding the dress and things. I am just happy to have them there with me at the wedding 😀
Post # 4
Yes! This is me, except mine live in the US, Brazil, Singapore, and Indonesia, and I’m in London. 🙁 I had to go get my dress with my BROTHER. How lame is that?? On the happy side, though, it was great having an honest guy approve it. He said that it looked like it grew on me and that it’s one of the best-looking dresses he’s ever seen. Isn’t that sweet?
Also missing my mom as she also lives in Indonesia… *sniff, sniff* I understand the need to have someone around who can help with the wedding! Can you just have an uneven bridal party? Your friends will come and go, but a SIL is a pretty permanent relationship that you want to foster, not torch… just a thought. I think that if you ask her what role SHE would like to play in the wedding, you might get a better idea of her expectations.
As for keeping up with everyone, I just send emails with pics of stuff if I want opinions or approvals. I also just recently sent them a preliminary idea of schedule stuff so they can plan their trips accordingly since they’re all flying internationally to attend. Sad and often lonely without them around, but it’s not complicated to communicate when necessary.
Post # 5
I have three bridesmaids out of town, and I just send them emails, and write about wedding planning on my blog, and I emailed the pics of me in my dress 🙂 it sucks not having them here, but it’s not too difficult just sad.
Post # 6
I have two bridesmaids OOT, one of them being my MOH. The other four are local. I haven’t received help, offers of help, emotional support, etc from any of them except from MOH and from thousands of miles away…. I have crappy friends it seems.
I’m sorry you’re going this alone, but hey at least your planning will go your way!
Post # 7
Does the wedding party really have to be even? I have 8 and FI has 7. It irked me at first but when it comes down to it I wanted them all to be involved.
Post # 8
My friend had an uneven wedding party and it looked fine. She just had two ladies walk with one of the guys. It was actually pretty cute.
Post # 9
Yep, I’m in the same boat as well – my parents live in France, my sister in Bhutan, my bridesmaids are moving to Italy and the Netherlands and my inlaws are all in Canada. I live in England. Mr Nerd is going to be a very involved groom whether he wants to or not! (thankfully he has been very enthusiastic so far)