Post # 1
My mother and/or sister babysit my daughter everyday after school so I see them quite often and eat dinner with them a few days a week.
When I bring up the wedding, they nod and then change the subject. When I mention dress shopping, niether is the slightest bit interested. I’ll point out pictures of dresses/flowers/cake out of a magazine and they barely glance at it.
Could you please just fake it at least?
Post # 3
im so sorry they arent being supportive! i feel for you because i know how important it is to get input from those closest to you. luckily you have FI and the Bee 🙂 we will all get exctied about your wedding plans!
but you are right – why such the long faces family? at least plant a smile on your face and nod your head.
Post # 4
I kinda know what you are going through. My mom is always busy so we rarely get to talk wedding and I am the only child so I do not get to share information with any sister :/. I just learned that no one is going to care about my wedding as much as I do and no one cares to hear about it either. So I don’t even talk about it anymore. If they bring it up I just keep it short. It hurts my feelings but what can I do.
That is why I love the Hive! Everyone here is so supportive and cares about my wedding and details just as much as I care about theirs!
Post # 5
When my sister got married eight years ago, everyone’s lives revoled around the wedding. I had to come home from college countless times to go dress shopping, look at venues, etc and I didn’t mind because it was my sister.
But now boo 🙁
Post # 5
People are grumps. I know what you mean. Although that probably stems from the fact that most people I associate with are male, and they, um, don’t care. At all. End of story.
Everyone here is stoked for your wedding, though. I know it sucks a lot, and your family’s support would be really nice and appreciated, but there ARE people who are super excited for you and want to see you happy! Just keep that in mind. *hug*
Post # 6
A lot of my family would actually intentionally change the subject in anticipation of me becoming obsessive about the wedding. So I never even got a chance to be wedding crazy, they wouldn’t listen to anything about it from the get-go. Rolling their eyes if I called to ask for their address or wanted to ask a question about my shower, etc.
Post # 7
Do you talk about the wedding a lot? I agree family should be enthusiatic, but I remember when my cousin was planning her wedding it was non stop about it. Flowers, dress, theme, details on the theme, who was invited, what the invitations looked like. After a couple weeks my eyes would glaze over and I’d go to my happy place every time she started talking about it.And I love weddings, and especially my cousin! I could just only hear about it so much.
Not everyone thinks weddings are exciting, just like not everyone sees what the big deal is when someone has a baby. It’s just the way it is! That’s why I’m so grateful to have an online outlet to gab about these things!
Don’t worry, when the big day arrives everyone will be thrilled. Until then don’t expect them to “get it”.
Post # 8
@SoontobeMrsA: I am totally feeling you on this. I get the “why didn’t you just run away and get married” card played all. the. time.
Post # 9
Haha No I don’t talk about any of that with them. That’s what you guys are for 🙂
I just want their input on venues and dresses-specifically their dresses. That’s all. My friends said if I didn’t take my mom dress shopping I’d regret it but she is just so uninterested.
Oh and I’m trying to plan my wedding around everyone’s work and vacations too.
Post # 10
@SoontobeMrsA: my FMIL wants us to run away so she can HAVE a vacation. FI was like: “Um hate to tell her, but if we ran away it would be just me and you. Oh and I guess a witness.. ’cause we’re all that matters”
I just love him so.
It can get annoying. Just hang in there.
Post # 11
@SoontobeMrsA: Maybe they’ll be more interested when it’s about a year away. Even when we planned our wedding in 10 months, family members had burnout from hearing about it during the lull periods where nothing was really being planned. As a bride, we’re wired to be obsessive about it and disappointed when others aren’t. I think that they’ll get more into it when it gets to the year mark.