Post # 1
I know it hard to help when you are groom who lives several thousand miles away from both his bride and the wedding location but that is not a blanket excuse to do nothing. When you proposed to me you knew I was not one of those women who would be super into wedding planning brides, in fact, I hate most of it. However, I figure if we are going to plan this wedding we might as well do it right and make it a fun and memorable event. I’m also not a bride that wants to do everything herself, I want some freaking help.
Furhermore, just because something is difficult and challenging doesn’t mean we should just not do it. Pictures on website? too hard to find and load, lets not do it attitude needs to end. or the sure “I’ll research invitatios”… ten minutes later “here is one, lets use it” Ok well is it in budget? did you look for cheaper options? does it come with an envelope? what color options should we use? what wording should we use?, oh you didn’t think about anything and just goolged wedding invitaions and picked the first one you saw, oh great thanks for your help.
Do you remember when you had 4 weeks off with no work? And said you would help with the STD, website, finding addresses, rings, registry. Well guess what I’m working on right now, the STD, website, finding addresses, rings and a dozen other things that have to get done.
I think you like to think that I enjoy doing all the research to save us money and enjoy trying to put on a nice event, for lets face it, your family since my guest list makes up about 20% of the guest list.
I love you and can’t wait to spend my life with you but plese stop using the “I live in another state” excuse and freaking help with some of this wedding.
Your annoyed Bride
*just had to trype that out to make myself feel better and so I can actually talk to my fiance without turning into a scary bridezilla.
Post # 3
My Fiance is very involved but as far as wedding planning and day to day life he is the worlds biggest PROCRASTINATOR which makes me the worlds biggest nag!
Post # 4
Sometimes I write my angry feelings on a piece of paper and then throw it away. It helps me be more level headed when talking to Fiance.
Most men just don’t want anything to do with the wedding. Fi doesn’t care about the centerpieces, linens, flateware, invites, aisle decor, ect. Maybe you should ask him what he thinks is important in the wedding and then base his task off of that. I know Fiance would do a half ass job if I asked him to research florist because he doesn’t care about flowers.
Post # 5
P.S. “Whatever makes you happy, Babe, I like what you pick out” is not a get-out-of-planning-free card, Babe.
Post # 6
glad to know I’m not the only one!
@misstattoo my question is why is it the bride that is the default one who has to care? Because quite frankly I don’t care about a lot if ibut you still need to find a florist and pick a bouquet so why halfass it if you have to it. Why don’t men get that!?
@NDbee ok that made me laugh… How true!
Post # 7
@Snowy414: The wedding industry complex caters to women. Weddings use to be simple. I think it’s just part of our culture now. Fi has said the only thing he cares about is the marriage. He would be happy getting married at the courthouse and having dinner at Olive Garden with everyone. The centerpieces, favors, rose petals, photography, tents, signature drinks, matching grooms socks to match my shoes, theme, ect are all for me. I care about the marriage, but I want the wedding too.
Post # 8
@Miss Tattoo: I am the exact opposite. I would love to get married in a simple ceremony and take everyone out to dinner. The wedding is for my Fiance and his family. He was forewarned that a lot of this will fall to him and that he is expected to attend all appointments and make all decisions along with me. There hasn’t been any issues with that but he thinks we have plenty of time to get everything done. Uhm. No. By the time my work calms down in May we will only have 3 months!
Post # 9
Can I just say that I love you guys?! =D My Fiance has gone from “tell me what to wear, where to be, and when to be there” to complaing that none of his opinions matter (sorry my love, tuxedo t-shirts for the groomsmen is just NOT going to happen, no matter HOW funny you think it would be!), to driving me crazy because he needs my opinion on every little teensy-tiny detail (he’s been designing our invites for over 2 months now, and if my approval isn’t enthusiastic enough when he makes one itty bitty change to them, he scraps the whole thing and starts over. We’ll be married before they’re done!) to the point that I’d rather just do it myself!
I SO appreciate that you guys can help me laugh at these situations and make me feel less alone in this sometimes frustrating process!!