- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
Hi! First post here, be gentle with me 🙂 If you’ve planned a wedding far away from where you live, please tell me if it was a total pain or no biggie!
Both my Fiance and I are from the east coast, although different states, and we are currently living in CA. I have been living on the west coast for almost 6 years, my Fiance has been on the west coast for 11 years (I think, might be even longer!), so basically the majority of our friends also live here.
None of our family, even distant relatives, live here. My Fiance said as soon as we decided to get married that we should plan it for the east coast for our families. But the sad truth of the matter is that other that my parents and his parents, who I’m sure would fly out to wherever, I don’t really care about inviting the rest of our families as neither of us is close to them (with the exception of my grandmothers, one of which will be unable to attend anyway). I do unfortunatley think that my mom would want her family to come (they won’t if it’s out of state), all for the wrong reasons really, not because she’s especially close with them either. I don’t know just yet how much of a fuss she’ll make, but let’s assume it will be a bg one, cause God bless her that is just how she is. I do love her very much and want her to be happy too.
I was tempted at first to be like, sure, whatever, it’s not a big deal, it doesn’t matter we can get married wherever. But the more I think about it the more stressed out I’m getting about trying to plan a wedding so far away from where we live. We have a better choice in venues out here, I’ll be able to use my own hairdresser/nail tech/makeup artist who I already love instead of trying to find somebody new (I want to look GOOD on my day!!), my friends will be able to attend, I will have a better choice for caterers (I’m vegan and picky and there’s just more options in CA for tasty healthy food vs. where my parents live).
Not to mention all the other little details…. I feel like when picking out decorations and flowers I actually want to see them in person before I ok them! I basically want to see every small detail in person, maybe that’s crazy, but I don’t want any suprises and I don’t trust my parents to make those choices for me.
I know people do this all the time but it scares me! At the end of the day Fiance doesn’t have really strong feelings about it one way or another and my feelings are all over the place so IDK.