- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
This is just a rant, and I have no intention of going to such extremes as breaking off a 25 year friendship over this, just FYI. I just happen to have a friend who’s DH is extremely annoying.
I have mentioned my friend Jenny and Kevin in a few posts (used different names). They are the kind of couple I like to call “one uppers.” Anything you can do, they can do better. Jenny’s always been that way, and now she found a man that shares that same trait. They had an intimate wedding, and for the 1-2 months leading up to it I had to listen to all her “money woes.” She was getting money from her mom, dad, and step-dad, but, unbeknownst to them, was using it for the honeymoon instead. Anyway, she ended up cutting corners (cake, no decorations, making her mom cook all the food) because money was tight. I offered to pay for her flowers. She declined, which was fine.
We had been looking at pickups because, once we found out we were pregnant (friend and her H don’t know that we are yet because we are only 9 weeks), we knew DH’s small car wouldn’t cut it. Jenny got a new 2013 Subaru Outback. She told us that she couldn’t get it until this past weekend because she needed to wait until they got paid to make a down payment, and they are holding her credit card. Felt bad for her, but told her how nice it looked though, and even took her this weekend to pick it up from the dealership. After we dropped her off, we bought one of the pickups we’d been looking at, a 2010 Silverado. I post a pic on Facebook.
DH gets a call from Kevin. The conversation went like this:
Kevin: Saw you got a pickup. What year?
DH: Yup. 2010 Silverado.
Kevin: Oh. Jenny’s is a 2013.
Kevin: What do you think of it?
DH: It’s nice. She will be happy with a Subaru. They’re good vehicles.
Kevin: So now that you guys bought a pickup I have to buy a boat.
Kevin: Yeah, you guys got a pickup. Now I need to get a boat.
[He proceeds to ramble about two different boats he had just found online and which one would be better to get. DH is looking at me dumbfounded]
Kevin: So you think I should get a boat right? You agree?
DH: You won’t really need it until spring because ice fishing season is approaching. Not only that but you guys just bought a new car. If it were me I’d tackle one thing at a time.
Kevin: Well, I need a boat. She got a car and now you guys decide to buy a pickup so soon, so I need a boat. You think I should get it, right?
Conversation pretty much ends there because DH realizes that Kevin only wants him to say yes when he doesn’t agree.
Fast forward to last night we are watching the game. I get a FB chat popup from Kevin asking what I thought of Jenny’s car. I said nice. He said it was, and told me he was getting a boat. I said cool and knew where this conversation was going, so I just clicked out of FB.
I get a text. Mother of God. At this point my pregnancy hormones (you know, the angry ones) kick in. DH said to just talk to him to get it over with.
Kevin: You went off FB
Me: Yeah, I was done on it.
Kevin: Rude not to even say bye ya know
Kevin: So I talked to [your DH] about a boat. He said I should wait, but I figured you guys bought a pickup so now I need a nice boat. What do you think?
Me: I don’t know.
Kevin: What do you mean you don’t know? It’s a simple question.
Me: You know, this is a conversation you should be having with Jenny. Just because we say yes or no doesn’t mean you should go out and buy a boat. And just because we got a pickup doesn’t mean you should get a boat either.
Kevin: Wow. Someone’s pissy.
Me: I’m not pissy. I just don’t get what validation you’re looking for?
Kevin: Well I don’t know what the fuck flew up your skirt. I was just asking if I should get a boat, which I’m gonna. If I don’t, next thing I know you guys will be getting one!
Me: Who the hell really cares if we do? It’s none of your business either way. But, if you really want this validation you keep asking for, no I do not think you should get a boat. If you and Jenny had to wait until payday to have enough money to buy a car then, if it were me, a boat would be totally out of the question. You don’t need a boat just because we got a pickup. We didn’t need a brand new 2014 Silverado because you guys got a 2013 because guess what? Debt is not a competition we want to win. We know our budgets and stick to them. We don’t buy stuff because someone else bought something newer or better.
[During my long text which took a while to send he had the effing audacity to send me a text that said “cat got your tongue?”]
Me: And obviously it didn’t [meaning the cat didn’t get my tongue].
Kevin: Well this has been a really fucking unproductive chat.
Me: Who would have guessed it would turn out that way huh
Kevin: I regret texting you so late at night because I see you are even harder to deal with at night than you are on the regular.
At that point DH told me to leave it alone. I was fuming by the end. This is a 38 year old man. He is 10 year older than both DH and Jenny (13 years my senior). You’d think he’s be the most mature and logical of the group.
Anyway, if you made it through thanks for letting me rant. This is a discussion we are no longer going to have with him if he tries to bring it up. DH said he has no problem giving him pointers on what boat to go with since he knows the lakes, but he is fed up with Kevin’s attitude. Don’t blame him.