Post # 1
My mother passed away very tragically of cancer my sophmore year of college. Growing up, she used to spend hours planning out the llittle details of my married life with me- what sort of house I would buy (a Modern one with dozens of windows), china patterns, and of course, my dress. I never thought to write the little things down. Two years have gone by, and now, at 21, I have only the little tendrils of memories and advice to cling to. Planning a wedding without your mother is near unbearable, and given the fact that I am already a young Medical School student (a nerd without fashion sense of any kind), I have no idea what I am doing.
The one thing I have that my mother gave me special is a gold chain with a single pearl on it. I was thirteen, and she took me aside and gave me this very special necklace, with her wishes that I wear it everyday becuase “You are my whole world, my special baby girl.”
I have the dress (my older sister bought it and picked it out for me). Here is a picture of the dress. I want to wear my mother’s necklace, and I want to wear gold jewelry with it. But my mother would be rolling in her grave if I was in any way tacky on my wedding day. So please help me. Can I wear gold jewelry with this? I want to honor my mother’s wishes and do this thing right. Please, please give me your advice. Here is me in the dress:
Post # 3
You can do whatever you like on your wedding day, especially if it is meaningful and important to you! Gold jewelery will be just fine, especially with a pearl, and I think if you didn’t wear it you would regret it later 🙂
Post # 4
Yes of course you can wear gold. It will go even better if it also had pearls as pp said. I’m So sorry your mom is not here to plan with you.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry about your struggles without your mom. First, gorgeous dress. Second I do think you can (and should!) wear the necklace. With the pearl it will go even more, and because it sounds so simple, it certainly wouldn’t clash or be tacky in any way. I say keep the remainder of your jewelry simple as well.
If you can post a picture of the necklace, too, that might help us visualize even more.
Good luck with your planning, and please don’t hesitate to continue reaching out to the bees on questions about planning or vents about doing this without your mom. There are sure to be girls who have been in similar situations who can empathize and give great advice.
Post # 6
It is never tacky to make such a sweet gesture to honor a deceased family member. Wear it proudly!
Post # 7
Oh honey, your mom is beaming down on you! Your dress is stunning, and that necklace (and gold jewelry to boot) is going to look so gorgeous with your dress! All the best to you.