Post # 1
Hey Girls! I am typing up my formal wedding invitations now and I want to include my mom. She passed away when I was a freshman but I can’t seem to get the layout right. I wont to type my mom and my dad, along with my FI’s parents, and then be able to put both our names together. For example
Stephanie & Nathan
How can I do this? Any ideas? thanks!
Post # 3
Could you do:
(Father’s name), husband of the late (Mother’s name)
and (FI’s parents)
invite you to celebrate the union of their children
Stephanie and Nathan?
I’m really not sure about this, it was just a rough draft kind of idea. My FI’s father past away 5 years ago and he decided not to include him on the invitation. I know, in the past, a lot of people would suggest to honor her in the program or in another way.
Post # 4
Mr. Daddy and the late Mrs. Mom
and FH parents
Post # 5
@trugem: The problem is that someone who is deceased cannot be hosting the wedding. So if couple themselves were hosting, you could say:
daughter of Mr. Daddy and the late Mrs. Mom
son of FH parents…
However, if you want to list the parents as hosting, only the living ones can be listed as hosts.
Post # 6
@2dBride: I thought that too and about the way you did it, but she said she wanted their names together too. Which is why I did mine the way I did; all couple names are together and the mother is not hosting, but is mentioned.
May not be the best, but meets the requirements.
Post # 7
@reinab505: I know. I was just trying to clarify for trugem exactly what the problem was.
The only question I have about your solution is that it seems a bit odd to say that her father is the husband of someone deceased. It kind of sounds as though, if he remarried, he’d be engaging in bigamy. However, it may be the best of the available choices.
Post # 8
@2dBride: I know, that’s the issue I had with it too. I couldn’t think of a better way to say it though.
Post # 9
@ThePinkTyrant: Yeah, I don’t think there’s really a way that you can list your mom and your dad together if your dad is hosting. Technically, you don’t list deceased family members on the invitation–you honor them in the program or some other way–but if you really want to, this would be how to do it:
Mr. John Bride
and Mr. and Mrs. John Groom
request the honor of your presence a the marriage of their children
daughter of the late Mrs. Jane Bride
and Mr. John Groom, Jr.
The thing is, a deceased parent cannot appear to be hosting the wedding–and unfortunately, that’s kind of a big thing in invitations. There’s no real good way to have your dad and your mom on the same line–I suppose you *could* add your dad to the line below your name, but most guests will think that’s a little strange to list your dad twice AND because technically, your father is no longer married.
Another way to think about it is it’s a beautiful personal gesture to want to include your mother (and you could in the above example), but for all the wedding hoopla surrounding them, invitations aren’t really all that personal–they are there to provide nuts-and-bolts information and certain conventions are employed to make sure that the information given is clear. A few other ways that you could honor your mom is to have a special segment during the ceremony, a moment of silence at the reception, include something about her in the program, or have a “family photo” display including a tribute to your mom.
Post # 10
Thanks guys! Sorry for the late response.
I totally understand what you mean about it sounding wierd if my mother is hosting the party. I will have to decide what to do! Thanks for the input!
Post # 11