Post # 1
I’m a December bride and my wedding is a week before Christmas. This time of year is the only time that will work for me and there are at least 2 other girls from school who are getting married around this time for the same reason.
My mom originally asked me to move the date because it was so close to Christmas but I gave her my reasoning and she moved on. The date works for all my law school friends, because of course, this is the best time of year for them as well. I realize that it may be a inconvience because most people are traveling but it is either this or no wedding at all. The next time I will be able to do this wedding thing is in another couple of years. I thought everthing was settled about the date until yesterday as I went to ask my FMIL for addresses of family. I guess people had made comments about how close it is to Christmas. The wedding is a full week before hand but I guess this is an issue to some. I can’t change the date- and if I do it will just be moved to the week after Christmas which is New Years.
I was wondering what feedback you December brides have gotten about your date, if any?
Post # 3
I had my wedding on December 19th of last year and I had no negative comments about the date at all. Everyone (all 50 guests) had no problem with it being so close to Christmas and it was nice to see so many people before Christmas that I only get to see maybe once a year! And we had similar reasoning for picking our date. My DH is in the Navy and our time frame was the only time that we knew he would for sure have leave, so we didn’t have much to work with. I don’t know why people would think it would be an issue if it’s a full week before Christmas, but if that’s what works for you then go with it. Unless some very important guests are completely inconvenienced by it, I don’t think you have to change your date.
Post # 4
I could see how attending a wedding one week before Christmas could be difficult. At the same time, like any other wedding, those who love you and are close to you will be there no matter what. Good luck!
Post # 5
We got one comment, but basically everyone seems cool with it (we’re getting married on 12-12). I would just go ahead and not worry about it and don’t listen to people who try to give you guff about it. People are going to be difficult about lots of decisions you make and you can’t listen to them all. I agree with July09bridetobe…. people will be there happily no matter what!
Post # 6
Not to worry, Josalyn. There’s always someone who has something bad to say about your wedding date. If people can’t make it, then so be it. You’ll have a smaller intimate wedding. I’m also a December bride, although mine is two weeks before Christmas. No one’s given me any feedback about it being close to Christmas. Hopefully it’ll work out well for you!
Post # 7
We had our wedding on December 27,2008, and if there’s one thing I regret about our wedding, it was the date. Ticket prices were sky high because of Christmas and some people could not make it, with the economy being what it is. We also felt awful for those who did end up buying the expensive tickets.
Post # 8
I agree with purplrayne. There will always be someone who has a comment about the date of your wedding. We are getting married on December 5th, and some people thought that was too close to Christmas! We spun it around and told our families that it was a chance to see extended family during the holidays, which doesn’t usually happen. Since then we haven’t really had any comments about the date. I think they figured out we weren’t budging on the date.
We also decided to have a morning-after brunch so all of our OOT guests could get together.
Good luck Josalyn! I hope everything works out for you!
Post # 9
Thank you all so much for the support. I agree- someone will have something to say regardless of the date. I’m not changing it and because of you all I don’t feel stressed about feeling bad about not changing it. Does that make sense?
Post # 10
I’ve gotten both extremes…from strangers it’s "Wonderful" "How fabulous" but from family I get "No one will come" "The weather is horrible that time of year and no one will come" and the like.
And no I don’t think you should change your date…there’s no way I would! I LOVE our date and it’s special to us 🙂
Post # 11
I’m getting married in Nova Scotia, Canada in January and yes we have caught some flack from people because of the date. Some people said it’s too close to after Christmas therefore they will be broke and others are scared that there will be a snow storm. I already have Save the Dates made up to send out so people can budget if they so chose and if they are callign fora snow storm then come a day early, we have family in the city they can stay with and I have negotiated a great rate at the hotel. Liek my FI says, if they really want to be there they will, if they don’t then they didn’t really want to be there in the first place. I try to keep that in the back of my head when people say negative things.
Post # 12
I am also getting married a week before Christmas for alot of the same reasons as you. School will be over, plus I have a few friends who no longer live in our home town, but thier parents still do, so they go home around Christmas anyway. Plus, we no longer live in TX, but of course always go home for Christmas. Plus, having a winter wedding is kinda since since it isn’t so hot and humid.
While many of our guests are coming from out of town, 95% are within a 2 – 4 hour driving distance. So no worries about expensive flights.
Anyway, I haven’t really heard any complaints except 1 from my FI aunt who said she didn’t know if she could make it since it was the weeekend she and her husband always go to Vegas! WTF? Are you serious? I was just like, whatever – don’t come then. Of course I didn’t say that – just thought it.
I am sure your December weddind will be amazing!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t worry about it. Our wedding day is December 26th! I am not worried at all. (We picked the date because it was my grandma’s birthday). The guest that want to be there will and will make it happen. Winter Weddings are beautiful. It’s such a time of celebration!
Post # 14
Im getting married 12/28/09 and ive had plenty of people try to talk me out of that date. My sister is starting nursing school at vanderbilt, and she is in an accelerated program that has NO BREAKS AT ALL! The only time she has off is 1 week for christmas. People even made comments like, “well, im sure your sister will understand if you have it without her” and “is your sister more important than your soon to be husband??”. I was absolutely getting sick of it, so anytime anyone says something to me, I tell them to deal with it. Either come to my wedding or dont. Oh well.
The way I see it is, its my day.. my decisions..
Post # 15
for people who live near you I don’t see any difference in going to your wedding vs. going to one of a million Christmas parties around the same time. It’s just one Sat. night in Dec, whether you are drinking egg nog or eating wedding cake shouldn’t really matter. For people who are traveling long distance I can see the burden around Christmas time b/c of finances and other commitments, but as long as you aren’t bridezilla when they respectfully decline and are understanding that some people may not be able to make it, then I think it’s fine.
Post # 16
Our wedding date is the week before Christmas too but the date was chosen BECAUSE of our families and friends. I always wanted a fall wedding but I have a HUGE Cajun family who only gets together for Christmas every other year since most people live out of state and some even live overseas. So I knew that if I had a fall wedding people would have to chose between coming to my wedding or coming for Christmas if they could make make the trip at all on an “off family year”. So I chose the weekend before our “big family Christmas” in 2010 since most of our families would be in town for the holidays already.
And everyone is happy!