December RSVP Acceptance Rate

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Newbee

I’d be surprised if many of us have actually sent invitations out yet.  I’m not planning on sending them out for another month. 

We’ve invited about 110 people and last night I went through and marked those I knew were coming and those who I was sure weren’t.  As of right now, we have 20 that are definite nos and about 60 who are definite yeses.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF

My friend is also having her wedding on 12/13/14 (such a cute day!) and sent out her STDs in February or something of this year.  I live in London but was planning on going home to Florida for Christmas. Because I knew of her wedding so far in advance, I’ve amended my holiday plans to include a stop-over in the state that she’s getting married in. I’m not a December bride but assuming that you have given your guests notice so that they’re aware their invitation is coming, I’d assume (and hope) that the attendance rate is pretty good. 🙂 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

What’s the weather like where your wedding is?  When we were considering a December wedding, FI’s mom said many of her friends and family (who all live 1.5 hours away) would be reluctant to attend because it would be a hard drive in bad weather.  My mom was also concerned that people would have a hard time flying in because of weather.  But other than that, I think most people would choose a wedding over a holiday party if they knew the couple well, especially since they’ll know about the wedding well in advance.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: mountain venue

I was wondering the same thing…we are getting married on 12/13/14 as well!!!! so excited …congrats!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

We got married last December 7th, but we got married in our hometown, which is a 5-6 hour drive from where we currently live.  We decided to get married down there because that’s where our family is still at, plus, we were having a smallish wedding with mostly family.

We invited about 100 and we had 85 actually come.  We were supposed to have 90 but DH’s cousin and their 3 kids cancelled at the last minute because 2 of the kids were sick, and it would have been a 2 hour drive for them.  We knew most of the people that lived near us would not make that drive, which we were OK with, and we were surprised with some that did.

I will say though, that we wound up having a big snowstorm the day before the wedding (Friday).  We had a bunch of people coming from 2-3 hours away that were late coming in on Friday, so they were late to the rehearsal dinner.  We invited them to the rehearsal dinner because we knew they were making that big drive just for us.  Fortunately, the snow ended before rush hour Friday night and it did not snow on the day of our wedding.

Bottom line – we had more people RSVP yes than we expected. 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

soontobemrs.h:  Most people send their invitations out 8-10 weeks prior to the wedding so you may not get the answer just yet. Also I realize its not a holiday BUT its so close to Christmas and surrounds Chirstmas Parties of friends/family/work that it could already be a time where acceptance may be lower than normal. Its hard to say though. We are having ours the 1st weekend where school is back in Canada and noticing that our acceptance numbers are lower than we expected but I didn’t realize it when I picked my date. Also we’ve had a lot of people come stag (more than expected) so that contributes to our lower numbers. At first we were sad about the lower than normal numbers but now realizing that its a good thing! We will be able to socialize more with those that can come! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We got married 12/3/11 and had decent attendance  🙂  I think we invited 125, and 105 accepted.  About 100 actually attended which was a different story, harrumph.  Many traveled to make it to the wedding, which was about 1-2 hours’ drive from most of our family members.

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

soontobemrs.h:  Sounds like you’re having the opposite of me, where the majority of my guests were family.  We had a very short engagement (4 months) so as soon as we had the date we sent out an email to our familes and we kind of knew ahead of time what kind of acceptance rate we would have.  We didn’t do formal STD’s because our inivitations went out shortly after that.

At least with our group, December 7 was early enough that it didn’t interfere with holiday work parties or other holiday parties.  I think with December 13 you may have a few more issues with that.

It’s good that you live in an area that doesn’t get snow!  I didn’t expect that snowstorm so early in December but we got some beautiful (but cold!) pictures.

For us also, our wedding kind of doubled as a family reunion or the holiday get together as many of those guests we didn’t see at Christmas as they spent time with the other sides of their families.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  SnowInApril.
Post # 14
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Newbee

 

soontobemrs.h:  sorry!  didn’t mean for that to come off snarky at all.  I completely misread and thought you only meant 12.13.14 brides.  I’ll be interested to hear what other brides have to say about this too 🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m getting married on 12/27/14 and just sent out Save the Dates last month.  I haven’t even looked at invitations yet haha.  We are inviting a lot of people though, 200 households, yikes!  It will be interesting to see how many come.

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