WHEN to start TTC

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: What was/is your deciding factor (s) to start TTC
    Financial stability : (24 votes)
    18 %
    Professional accomplishment : (9 votes)
    7 %
    Marriage : (25 votes)
    19 %
    Optimal health : (10 votes)
    7 %
    Overall sense of "readiness" : (35 votes)
    26 %
    Whenever my SO/FI/DH is ready : (14 votes)
    10 %
    a specific amount of time after the wedding : (5 votes)
    4 %
    At a certain age : (12 votes)
    9 %
    other (please share) : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    10916 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @Petite_Fraise: For me it’s professional and having that sense of readiness, which I have these now.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3722 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    For us it was age. I’m 38, FI is 37. It took us a long time to find each other and we both really want kids. We started TtC before the wedding (but close enough that if I did get pregnant, I wouldn’t be showing yet). The wedding is in 7 weeks!!

    Post # 5
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Petite_Fraise:  for us it is december. 🙂 I year after we got married. We want it we are happy. I know my husband would not mind waiting a little longer.

    Post # 6
    Member
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Glasgowbound:  and are you pregnant? Or still trying? Congrats!!!

    Post # 8
    Member
    3722 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @bbfyso:  still trying. I’m ok with that though. Would be happy to be pregnant, but would also love to drink at the wedding!

    Post # 9
    Member
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We have both always wanted a family, so i voted marriage as we wanted to wait to be married to start trying. But we are also financially and emotionally ready and in our 30s so these were factors!

    Post # 10
    Member
    1817 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Sense DH and I are both “accomplished” in professional developement I chose overall sense of readiness and certain time after getting married. We both wanted to wait at least a year or two after we got married but I think both our ‘clocks’ started to tick and we started NTNTC this past summer (only a year after we got married). We had a long discussion about it and we both feel ready to take on this new change.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    For us it is a combination of things… Financial stability, finishing school (I’m done in December), and an overall sense of being ready. We also plan on getting married first, although this isn’t a huge deal to us. Age is a pretty big factor; we are hoping to be done having kids by 30 or early 30s.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    It was a combination of factors for us – both of us being ready, healthiness (while I’m overweight, I’m in great shape), financial security, having a house (we live in a one-bedroom apartment, but we’re about to close on a house)…and I guess that’s about it.

    We’ve been married for 3 months and we’ve largely been ignored by our families when it comes to when we’ll have a baby. I have a distant relative who asks every time she sees me, but that’s about it. My husband’s grandma has asked us twice (I just said, “Oh no, we’re happy just having two of us.”). I have no intention of telling family when we start trying for a baby (we already have, but they don’t know it).

    My in-laws just had their first granddaughter 6 months ago (husband’s only sibling’s child). My parents are having their first grandchild – a grandson (my only sibling’s child) this fall. So, the attention is off of us.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2291 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    We are waiting until I graduate from nursing school and have a job for a few months before we start TTC. So that’s at least 18 months. It seems like forever, but it gives us time to do young couple stuff and save money so it’s not all bad.

    Post # 15
    Member
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Joining this thread – DH and I have been talking recently about having a baby. We were married a little less than 3 months ago and we have starting talking about babies. He wants to be done having kids (we want 2) before we are 30 or in our early 30s (we are 26 and 27 now) which means we better get started soon.

    However, ideally I would like a bit of “us” time before a baby enters the picture. BUT then I see all these adorable baby things on Pinterest and elsewhere and I think, why should we wait? Again, ideally, he also wants a promotion before we officially “start trying” and I wouldn’t mind one either. While we both feel emotionally ready we’re just not sure if we are ready in other aspects…

    It seems like all the factors point to WAIT but I can’t help but get baby fever every time I see our friends babies and/or go on pinterest or to the malls. Maybe I just avoid babies and baby stores for a while? LOL

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