Post # 1
I know this is quite the subject to A LOT of brides.
I’m not a tiny person for sure and I could stand to lose 50 lbs and still be healthy, ya know! I was talking to my FI the other night and made the comment that I wasn’t going to be going out of my way to lose any weight before the wedding. I guess I figure, this is me and how I look and why put the extra stress of trying to lose some amount of weight on top of planning a wedding. He actually agreeded with me!
He said that losing the weight for a particular “thing” wasn’t for him either (he’s a “husky” guy himself) and that losing weight should be for the right reasons (if that makes sense). So, I found a gown that I love and I love the way I look in it NOW, at the weight I am. If I lose weight between now and then for whatever reason, then great but I won’t shed one tear if I don’t.
We all want to look our best on our wedding day but I was curious if there was anyone else out there that hasn’t made it a “plan” to lose weight before the wedding, to fit into the dress of their dreams or for whatever other reason you might have.
Post # 3
Nope I’m not losing a pound before we get married, he loved me at the size I am so thats the size he’ll marry me at!
Post # 4
@dawnandjay: I have also decided not to lose weight, but I’m in a little bit different of a situation. I’m at a healthy weight now, and I was about 20lbs lighter a couple years ago (close to being too thin, but according to the dr it was ok because I was always that thin). Its taken me awhile to decide that I like the way I look now, and I think that thats a healthier attitude for me to have than deliberately working out and starving myself so that I can be 10lbs lighter. Now, I tend to lose weight when I’m stressed so I honestly would not be surprised if I lost it over the course of the next year and a half from wedding planning. And if that happens, then great. But if it doesn’t I won’t cry about it. My dress fits me perfectly now (I bought it already altered to my size preowned) so not losing weight saves me money in alterations which is kind of nice.
Post # 5
I have to say that I want to be a little slimmer for e-pics and then for my dress. I have no desire to be a stick, but I’d like to have my stomach be flat.
Post # 6
I think it is great you are not adding this extra stress to yourself for the wedding 😀 You are going to be a beautiful bride!!!
Post # 7
I didn’t do shitzel for my wedding. I have a history of eating disorders, so throwing away my life( and up my food) to be a slave to an image for one day was not worth it.
I am all for being healthy and I think it is top priority! But you do it for yourself and not a temporary event.
Post # 8
Ive opted to tone my arms but not really fussed about the rest my dress pulls me in enough 😀
Post # 9
I was a size 9 when I married at 24…stayed married in an awful situation for the next 25 yrs. Now I’m getting married in July and since I was 24 I had two (huge!) babies, polycystic ovarian syndrome, amazing amounts of stress, and since I met my FI I gained 25 lbs with a thyroid condition. Of yeah, and I’m pre-menopausal and he’s 15 yrs younger (and thin) too lol! I’m a size 18 now (5’8) & I have a certain amount of body shame going on but he loves me as I am. He always tells me that if I want to try to lose the weight I should only do it for myself. Love that man! But I’d love to drop something before July.
Post # 10
I didn’t do jack as far as weightloss for the wedding – I have PCOS so it’s really difficult to lose weight in general and I didn’t really want to hate my body through my planning process. I will tell you this – I FELT and LOOKED hot on my wedding day even at a plus-size. 🙂 I really did feel stunning. No toned arms, I was rocking the pale look, my dress size was in the double digits. I felt amazing. (In the interest of thread-jacking I’m not posting pics! haha) So it’s possible no matter what size you are. That day really does change it – I was surprised at how beautiful I felt and how well the pictures turned out.
Post # 11
I’m a UK size 14-16 (US 10-12, I think) and I constantly battle with how I feel about my weight, which is a different thing from battling with my weight. I’m trying to maintain a steady weight and I’m worried about my dress fitting at times, but my weight has been steady for years (up and down a little at times, but always returning to the same weight naturally) and logically I know that it’s better for me to be steady at just over my “healthy” BMI than to do what my mum has done and yoyo diet throughout my entire adult life.
So no. I’m not going to diet for the dress.
On the plus side, when I was really badly bloated recently my dress still fitted but my boobs looked AWESOME!
Post # 12
As a small chested woman, I always admire my breast when I’ve put on a little weight!
Post # 13
Im not losing any weight, sure if I happen to drop a pound or two that would be nice, but I’m not going all out. I am though planning on toning my arms and back alittle because of my dress. But I know some people that are planning on losing 50 or more because of a wedding, and are having it 2 or 3 years after being engaged so they can lose weight. To me it should be for the right reasons, and have it be a lifestyle change, not just a crash diet for a special event.
Post # 14
I wanted to loose a couple of lbs but more so for the honey moon not the wedding day. but then i was diagnosed with an auto immune diease a couple of months before the wedding and dropped almost 15 lbs in 6 months. i had to return my dress and get a smaller size and then even have it taken in… and it was a lil bit loose… granted this was not the healthy way but my body wasn’t liking food… then 2 months after the wedding i have a flare up from said diease and dropped even more weight… 11lbs in a week… scary drop in weight so i’m happy i didn’t push myself to loose any in the first place because you never know when you will need it.
lets be honest ladies all brides are gorgeous! all shapes and sizes its about the love you and your hubby to be have for each other!!!
Post # 15
I didn’t try to lose any weight for my wedding. I actually gained a little bit between our engagement and wedding due to battling depression and being a stress eater. And DH still thought I looked gorgeous!
Post # 16
@dawnandjay: Love this! I was the same way leading up to my wedding. I am so happy to hear you bought a dress you love on your body NOW, not one that you’d have to lose weight to “look good” in. You have a fabulous attitude, lady.