Deciding on a name together

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we made a spreadsheet of about 20 names each (so 40 total). we then went through rounds where we each vetoed about three names each. we did that until we had a very short list to discuss. it worked for us!

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Haha my husband is the same! He likes Thor, Wolfgang, etc BUT I don’t think he would actually name a child any of those ridiculous things. We aren’t pregnant yet, so it’s all fun and games to him right now. I’m not too worried that I will have the upper hand in the conversation when it actually happens. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

 

MrsCallalily:  We aren’t planning on having kids any time soon but we have discussed hypothetical names for years. So far we have agreed on James as a middle name for a boy. Poor kid won’t gave a first name but gosh darn it his middle name will definitely be James!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Harper. I loved that name since before it was the trendy name and the fact that I still love it is rare for me….he hates it and said we could use it to name our dog lol

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are TTC and have talked about this a lot.  We’ve somewhat agreed on one boys name, Luke, which DH is on the verge of ruining for me because I keep hearing Star Wars references.  He does this with a lot of names. For example:

We both like Lance, but then he starts saying “It’s call a lance, duh!” (From the movie Knight’s Tale)

We thought about naming a boy after him, but since he’s a Jr, our child would be a third, and he came up with calling him D3 (Mighty Ducks) and that squashed that name for me. 

Any name that can reference a popular NFL player or team he doesn’t like is a no…like Peyton, Colton, Elijah, Drew, Benjamin, etc…

I love Olivia for a girl, he tells me it’s an old lady’s name.

We don’t agree on any girl names…he says mine suggestions are too old fashion, and I think the names he suggests sound like stripper names. lol 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

MrsCallalily:  Omg YES! This is literally going on right now with us. He likes the weirdest, most madeup names, and I just cant do it! He looks up foreign names that he cant even pronounce, and just decides he likes them because they’re different. And he REFUSES to compromise, which pisses me off. His favorite girl name is Anastasia, which I actually do like, but I dont love, and he wont even go with a middle name that he doesnt approve of. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

MrsCallalily:  Oh naming our hypothetical child has led to many arguments–and we dont fight very often, but these name arguments have been fierce! We did have some boundries–he agreed to name the child (first, middle) using names from my side of the family since the child will have his last name. So that narrowed down the list. We finally (after 4+ years of “conversations” LOL)

I have a friend that wanted to name her child with a family name, but would allow him to give her a nickname. So the child’s real name would have been  something like Ellen (from her Great Aunt Ellen that she loved), but everyone would call her Buffy. They eventually found a name they both liked, so no need for the unusual nickname. (But at about 6 months he did try to sneak in the Buffy name–my friend stopped that in a heartbeat!!)

PS–if you want to be really sneaky, right after you’ve given birth and he’s seen how much you went through, burst into tears and tell him how much you really want name X 😉

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

We have this issue too. I have a name I have loved since I thought about having kids. But it is a family name and happens to be a family name on his side too, of a blacksheep. 🙁 We ended up short listing some that are totally different. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

The fathers of both of my children were not involved when they were born so they were also not involved in naming them.  Both of my children have my last name. I had names I loved for years for my future children and I ended up not using them for either kids. For my daughter I picked something off of a baby name website for her. And i named my son the name I had picked out for my daughter if she had been a boy. Even though I do not plan on any more children I have had the discussion a few times with my SO and he has a few names in his head that arnt bad.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

MrsCallalily:  Isn’t it so annoying! Right now we’ve been sticking with Luke for a boy.  And he’s been sending me these “Wookie the Chew” nursery pictures. It’s actually kind of cute, but I’ll never tell him that. 😉  As long as I don’t have to hear “Luke I AM your father” a million times a day, I’m somewhat ok with Wookie the Chew. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

MissCountryGirl727:  Once you have the kid, remind him that he can’t say “Luke, I am your Father” because he will ruin the Star Wars movies for the kid. He has to keep that under wraps until the kid is old enough to see and understand the films. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I’ve got a few in my head (Liam and Connor for boys and Emma and Lily for girls). I have an unusual name and I hate that. I will never burden another person with a name they have to explain to each and every person they met so my tastes as very simple and short. My DH? Imogen. That would happen over my dead body. Argh!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

In my husbands family it’s tradition to use the baby’s father’s middle name as a first name and seeing as my husband wants to carry on this tradition, if we have a boy his name is already chosen! Of course this means that if we have a girl then I get to choose the first name…fair is fair!

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