Post # 1
I am so sad! It seems like no one wants to come to my wedding! I have a big group of friends from college and I was really looking forward to spending time with them on my big day. But then one bailed, and then another, and now it looks like only one of them is coming (out of 10). Some of the excuses I understand, but some are just lame…We invited 175 people and 80 have declined. It makes me feel so sad 🙁 There are a few stragglers who have not RSVP’d yet, even though it’s past the date, and I have tried contracting them and they won’t repond to my e-mails (so it looks like they are out and are stalling to come up with a weak excuse). And on top of that, my MOH is trying to nail the details of my bachelorette party, and a couple of my bridesmaids won’t respond to her. What should I do???
Post # 3
Yikes. That stinks.
I think you and your MOH should just try and nail people down ASAP.
Enjoy celebrating with those who can make it, and don’t worry about those who can’t. No matter what I’m sure it will a beautiful and fun wedding!
Post # 4
Unfortunately there is nothing you can really do about your guest list. Times are tough and for many people this means no travel, etc. I think you will find that a drastically reduced guestlist is pretty common these days.
As far as your bp situation. I would contact the other girls and just politely nudge them, something like "(MOH) is really try to get the plans finalized on the bachelorette party, so please respond to her ASAP, etc" You are likely are the common thread so get the communication rolling.
Good Luck! Remember your wedding day will be perfect no matter who attends 🙂
Post # 5
I feel your pain. For me, it’s hard to understand why some friends won’t be able to come to my wedding even though I know I’ll have a good time anyway. I’m imagining excuses beyond the regrets, especially for those who haven’t met my FI.
You will have a good time. And you can make a chance to see those friends in another time. I think travel is preventing a lot of guests from coming to my wedding, not sure about your case.
And you should follow up with your ‘maids to get everybody together for your party. Sometimes people need a little encouragement that you want to hang out with them, especially if they don’t know your MOH well, a personal invitation from you could help.
Post # 6
Thank you all for your support 🙂 I totally understand that some people may not be able to make it because of the economy, but I am just disappointed by friends in stable jobs who originally told me they were coming, and now the month before are backing out 🙁 Oh, and I forgot to mention that one of my bridesmaids will not be attending my bachelorette (the night before the rehearsal, so all she would have to do is come a day early) because she would have to take a flight that had two stopovers! It’s stuff like that that makes me wonder if these people are my real friends….
Post # 7
Oh, I totally understand how you feel! It’s been difficult for me to know that a lot of people I really wanted to come aren’t going to be able to make it. My best friend has finals the day after our wedding at a college on the east coast, and most of our college friends have declined because of graduations, finals, money, etc… A lot of my family (who said they wanted an invitation and would try really hard to make it) have also declined. And then there’s the other half of our guest list who haven’t even responded yet even though our deadline for RSVPs in tomorrow.
I know it can be really disappointing, and I for one have a tendency to feel personally rejected by declined RSVPs and late RSVPs. Now that we’re so close though (and you are to!) I’m trying to just not to take it so personally. There might be a lot of reasons why people can’t come even if it seems like on the surface they should be able to make it. I’m just trying to keep in mind that the most important person (my Fi) WILL be at the wedding, and that’s all that matters. Well, that and the fact that we are saving a bunch of money since only 55 guests will show up!
Post # 8
My confession as a former bridesmaid:
I was a BM for a girl I met in college. I only had 1 class w/ her & she already asked me to be in her wedding. I was 1 of 4 total BMs, so it’s not like she didn’t have any friends she could ask. She wanted me to stay at the hotel the night before the wedding for a slumber party. I really didn’t feel like going, so I came the day of instead. Looking back, that probably didn’t make her feel too good that I bowed out on her pre-ceremony festivites, but honestly I didn’t consider her a close friend. We barely keep in contact these days, and I am not even inviting her to my wedding.