- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Hello Bees… PLEASE help me out and let me know how you would handle this!!
My fiance and I are having a smaller than average wedding of 130 or less people. We both have BIG families and out venue can only hold 140 comfortably. We’re paying for our wedding and we have a budget. Collectively, our 1st cousins have 19 children that we just cannot accomodate so we agreed we’d invite 1st cousins only.
I received an email today from my 1st cousin fishing to see if her daughter was invited. She is my God-child, but a distant one. I only see her on Christmas. I kindly told her about our situation – that we have a small venue and due to that and budget constraints, we were only inviting 1st cousins. She wrote back to me and told me how hurtful and surprising that is. That I invited to her to my 1st wedding ( which never happened..) so I should also invite her to this one. Plus, I am getting married in the Church and she is my Godchild- and to not invite her at all now. UNBELIEVABLE!!! Who DOES this?! I had told her initially that I’d love for her 2 daughters to come, but I don’t know how to invite some and not others…and she STILL responded to me like that. HOW RUDE!!! She is my 1st cousin and didn’t even invite me to HER wedding!
So I wrote back that I was sorry she’s upset and that the girls will be dissapointed, but this decision involves 19 other kids. And our venue is small because that’s what we can afford and we can only accomodate so many guests.
She hasn’t written back to me and I’m kinda glad for that..but really?! I feel like from an etiquette standpoint she is totally off. Have some consideration that my fiance and I are paying for this wedding ourselves and we have a small venue. I don’t want her to turn this into a war, but I don’t feel like I’m wrong. This is MY wedding. What do you all think???