Post # 1
I have a serious problem making decisions, and when I get close to finally deciding something I can just feel the anxiety building up. I have always been this way, but I think it has gotten worse since I got engaged. I have changed my mind too many times to count about virtually everything I have planned for the wedding so far. My mind literally changes every day, and I think people close to me think I am becoming a “crazy bride!” Does anyone else have this problem, and if so what do you do to control it?
Post # 3
I’m very similar. I’ve been looking at BM dresses since August and I still don’t have the faintest idea what I want. Try giving yourself deadlines, that’s how I get through life :).
Post # 4
I couldn’t make up my mind about a few things. So I asked my fiance’ (now husband yay!). He actually chose our wedding colors because I couldn’t decide. Also, I gave my Maid of Honor the color of her dress and let her pick what she wanted to wear. Go with the flow and quit looking at things once you make a decision! It will make it much easier on you. =)
Post # 5
Your preaching to the choir! I have changed my mind a ridiculous amount of times. If I wasn’t so verbal about our wedding it wouldnt really be an issue but once I get a cool idea, I cant help but share it with anyone who will listen.
I finally settled on a theme and colors when we set our date and booked the venue. We’re having a fall themed wedding in October in the Adirondacks so going with fall colors was the obvious choice for us (burnt orange and chocolate brown to be specific).
I found that once I found a vision that I was absolutely in love with (like I am with the fall theme), I didn’t change my mind.
Post # 6
Unfortunately, my Fiancé is very little help. This may sound crazy, but we are complete opposites besides the fact that we both have a hard time making decisions! We can’t even decide what to do for dinner most nights! He is definitely involved in the wedding planning, I talk to him about everything and he is present and willing- but when it comes down to it I don’t think he cares about the little things like what wedding favors to go with or what accent colors to use. Sigh…
Post # 7
A friend of mine (who got married a few months before I did) gave me advise that I clung to and really helped. It was: Pick what you like and move on.
If you think about it – that’s really what you need to do. You can spend hours worrying if it will really work or if people will like it or if it makes sense…. but, R-E-A-L-L-Y… if you and your FI like it… then it WILL work and make sense.
And, don’t forget to ask the hive to help with choices, when your brain is absolutely fried. It will be a wonderful tool for you!!! The wonderful bees will help you figure out pros and cons and help you make your decision.
Just take one thing at time (thinking about big picture can be completely overwhelming). And, once you make your decision, don’t waste time wondering if it was the right one or not… just move on to the next thing.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!!
Post # 8
I’m never sure but once I just do my research, make a selection I like and then say it’s done – no going back. I’d say don’t rush but there is only so much time I can devote to things.