Post # 1
Ok so we had a huge church dilemma with our church double booking our wedding with another causing us to have to find a new church. So FI and I went last night toured 3 churches and are now stuck deciding between 2 of them.
#1- It’s perfect. I love it. It’s big, bright, cheery. The sanctuary has gorgeous stained glass windows and they have a lot of decor that we can use for free. In the fee for the church it includes a wedding coordinator who will oversee everything that day, from making sure things go smoothly and that the sanctuary is decorated right and that we like it. The room that the guys will get ready in has a TV, air hockey table and all sorts of stuff to keep them busy. (even though they will probably be outside having a few beers) The only downside is the price (it’s twice the price as the other one.) And we haven’t met the pastor yet. This church is in a great location and is very easy to get to.
#2- It’s nice. The pastor is awesome (best part of the church). The sanctuary is ok, it wasn’t lit up well while we were there so it looked a little dark. It’s on the smaller side. The biggest issue I have is the that there are stairs that you have to walk up to get to the sanctuary to walk down the aisle. This could pose an issue for me and my dress since I am not the most graceful person in heels. Plus we may have some elderly people and I would hate to have one trip up or down the stairs. The other part is the entrance to the parking lot of the church. The road it is on is very busy and is divided by a median and there is no entrance if you are on the opposite side of the road. You have to go up a few blocks and make a U turn and come back around to enter the parking lot of the church. We have several out of town people coming from my home town and this could pose an issue. The price is not bad at all. Very reasonable.
I know it sounds like I already have one picked but the pastor at the one church is really awesome. Very laid back and seems like a really nice person.
So I am in a dilemma and we need to decide.
Post # 3
I would say go with #1. It seems beyond perfect and everything you want besides the price. If you can swing the extra I would say chose church #1. I just think we spend so much money on the actual reception and try to not spend anything on the sacrament itself. My mother was adament on everything with our ceremony being perfect that we hand picked all of our musicians and singers and everything turned out much more beautiful than I ever expected. I am constantly getting compliments on our ceremony.
Post # 4
I say don’t make any decision until you meet the pastor from church #1. It’s so important.
Post # 5
I asked FI at dinner last night if he wanted to go and meet the pastor from church #1 and he said no, lets just decide. He’s not a church person and even getting him in the church was a huge accomplishment!
It’s funny because when we left church #1 he said we didn’t need to go look at church #2.
The other thing that is a factor is that we have a large wedding party. 6 GM’s 6 BM’s and 2 jr. BM’s. Church #2 said it would be really tight upfront to fit everyone. And the rooms to get ready in are really small. The guys would be in a small office and us girls would be in a classroom. Church #1 had a huge room for the guys and one for us girls.
Post # 6
Meet the pastor before you decide. You want a meaningful ceremony, not just a pretty one. The price of #2 is also nice. But I think you’re already decided.
Post # 7
Honestly from how you explained both churches, I would say go with #1! #2 sounds like it wouldn’t be worth the stress you would have to deal with to make sure everything goes perfect!
Post # 8
I do like that the first one has a wedding coordinator included to make sure the day runs smoothly and on time.
The other thing about #2 is that we have to have someone stay after the ceremony to pick things up and make sure things are cleaned and put away. #1 has a custodian come in and do that, we just take our stuff with us.
Post # 9
@rachelss: I totally agree with the idea of meeting the pastor first. This can have a huge impact on your ceremony and should be taken into consideration. Good luck!
Post # 10
Number 1 sounds perfect, but you can’t be sure until you meet the pastor. If you don’t get along with the pastor, the whole ceremony can be extremely uncomfortable for you. You’d be wishing for a few stairs and a cramped bridal party as long as it came with the pastor you like.
If your FI won’t go with you, them meet with him alone. But don’t skip that step. You could be very very sorry if you do.
Post # 11
It’s sounding like church #1 to me. If you meet the pastor you might light him, but if not, it might be possible to have the other pastor (from#2) perform the service in #1. It sort of depends on whether they are indenent or part of a diosese what their policy is.