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My husband worked full time and started grad school full time exactly when we found out I was pregnant with our first daughter. He just graduated this summer (right after her first birthday), and I started my grad school program about a month after we found we're pregnant with #2. I'm still working full time right now, but I'm looking forward to quitting work and to be a full time SAHM and grad student when we have #2 this spring. While at home I still plan on doing school full time, and I'll graduate shortly after #1 turns 3 and #2 turns 1.
Depending on your program (the flexibility, the intensity, the research or filed study expectations, etc...) it's very possible to go to school full time with children, especially if you are not working at the same time. Not every program is easy to do with a family and/or children, though.
Personally, I think your first step should be a little more research. Is there a particular program you're interested in? If so, what's it like (e.g. class and homework load, research expectations, etc...)? That might help you make up your mind on whether you could handle a program full time, part time, or not at all while taking care of a child. Secondly, talk to your doctor. Not everyone who has cysts will have fertility issues, and your doctor should be able to give you some very specific guidelines depending on your individual health. It may turn out that you do need to consider TTC earlier than 30, but your doctor may also reassure you that the cysts are nothing to worry about in your case.
Lots of people are in school while they have children. Just take a look at the daycares that are offered in universities!
So I'm sure it'd completely possible, but it would also (I'm sure) be very hard. I'm not sure how old the theorectical baby would be when you go back to school, but if it's up 3-5 times a night, and you need to study, you might have a difficult time doing so.
but I dont have kids, and the thought of going back to school gives me nervous ticks...so take my opinion with a grain of salt :)
@Mrs. Spring: hmmm...I guess I should see how flexible the program is before I decide anything. I'm just having a hard time deciding and feel like I have to make too many decisions at once lately!
@soyjoy222: I totally understand; I get overwhelmed by big decisions! Just try to tackle one little step at a time. You have plenty of time to make this decision, and if you break into a series of smaller steps, it won't seem like such a huge task! Good luck! I hope things work out well for you, whatever your end decision is. :)
@Mrs. Spring:Ah! I didn't know you were expecting! congrats!!
OP: I think it really depends on the grad program. I had been contemplating going back for my MSW and having a baby at the same time and was cautioned against it by a number of people because in addition to classes/coursework, it would also require internships; so it would basically be like working AND going to school AND having a baby. If your grad program would just be classes, I think it's more manageable. Personally, if I were you and I felt like I could put off having kids for a few more years, getting your grad degree out of the way would probably be the easiest way to do it. And you guys could start trying during your last year of grad school if you wanted, since you can definitely go to school while pregnant.
Is it possible to remove the implant before three years is up if you want to? Or doe sit HAVE to stay in for 3?
@Mrs. Spring: thanks, Spring :) and congrats on baby #2!!
@hilsy85: You want to do an msw? I want to do marriage/family therapy, and I have my bsw. Social work, unite! :) Mine would require internships, as well, so maybe it would be better to just get school over with. I am having a hard time b/c I need to make a BC decision and the cysts complicate it, too. I don't have to leave the implant in for the whole 3 years, but it is expensive enough that I want to use it if I have it, you know? Plus my cycle is irregular on it and I was hoping to take some time and get my period back on track.
if you want to do marriage/family counseling, your best bet is to get that school over with. you're going to have internships and different requirements, so I would knock those out before TTC. take a look at a schedule for the program-- can you do your internships earlier, so that you could start TTC before you finish the program?
@soyjoy222: Yeah, in that case I think that it might be best to get grad school over with...I decided that I didn't reaaaaally want to go back to school, since I already have a Master's in Mental health counseling, and I also didn't want to put off TTC for another 2 years or so. I would definitely talk to your doctor about your concerns re: the cysts, tho. They might be able to give you some information on how to manager them, and I think (although I could be off base) that some types of BCP can actually help decrease cysts, so that might be a plus. Good luck with whatever you guys decide :)
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Hi Bees! I'm going to try to keep this short. I have been having a lot of thoughts lately towards career, babies and all that fun stuff and would love it if some of you baby-minded bees could weigh in.
I will be 25 in Dec, and FI and I are getting married June 1st, 2012. I am on a BC called Implanon, it is an implant that lasts 3 years. My 3 years are up late May 2012. I can get another inserted immediately after removal if I choose. This BC is a good choice for me (although it is expensive upfront) b/c I have high cholesterol, despite my small stature, exercise and medication regimine. It is a genetic disorder, and the BC pill raises my cholesterol significantly, which is why I had to have the implant. Sooo..that rules out the pill. We dont' want to have kids before we are married or even risk pregnancy before then, so the Implanon expiration is actually happening at a perfect time (we didn't plan that! promise!! haha).
I have been going back and forth about going to Grad school immediately after getting married. FI said he would support me going back full time so that I can get school over with before I'm 30, and then when I am 30 we can try for a baby. However, I just got diagnosed with ovarian cysts 2 months ago and go back for another ultrasound soon (no PCOS diagnosis or anything, just a cyst or two on my rt ovary). I no longer am confident in waiting until I am 30 to TTC with cysts, since I heard they can make TTC more difficult.
That being said, since I have to get the Implanon out in May, I am tempted to not get another and just use condoms with FI for a while, since the pill is not the best option for me. My only issue is...should I delay school and try to have a baby first and then go to school part time? By the time I am out, the baby will be school age and it would be perfect to start working again at that point (daycare would eat up my whole salary right now, so we already talked about me staying home). Am I being an idiot? Is it even possible to try to go back to school in the first year after having a baby? Have any of you done this?
I'm just so scared with the cyst thing...and the fact that I have to make a birth control choice in a few months has me wigged out. I just want to hear a few opinions, or real life examples to help me think this through. So much for keeping it short, haha.