Post # 1
A question for you all. We sent out save the dates for our August wedding in February. Since then, we have received a few declines over email/phone calls dues to already planned events. We are getting ready to send out official invitations this week. What I want to know is do I still need to send invitations to those people who already told us that they will not be coming?
Post # 3
I wouldnt. Save on stamps! 🙂 You already know their answer.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t either but I’ve heard it’s not appropriate. Though if I already told you I’m not going, I really wouldn’t want an invitation…
Post # 5
@Ixtlali: eh…send them. maybe their plans will change between save the date and invite. i had one person decline, claiming it was a religious holiday (my FMIL is the same religion, I asked her, and its not…sounds like this person was just hoping I didn’t know anything about their religion), and my FMIL insists I still send her an invite. even if they still say no, they’ll at least know you held them in a position of high enough esteem to formally invite them to your wedding.
Post # 6
@Ixtlali: I would send formal invitations. We had one couple tell us early on that they could not attend because of a conflict with another wedding, but they ended up RSVPing yes. Plans change!
Post # 7
You should still send out an invite. They may have a change of plans.
Post # 8
Well, that pretty much answeres my question. As much as I’d love to save on postage, looks like they will be getting an invitation anyways!
Post # 9
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Post # 11
@Ixtlali: I would still send them! I agree with others that say their plans could open up and they’d be able to attend 🙂
…that being said, we are spending practically NO money on our invites so it’s not a huge expense to send them to people we know won’t be able to attend.
Post # 12
I think you should just ask them… Say “Hey, I remember when we sent out our STD’s, you mentioned you’d be unavailable. I was unsure if you had a change of plans, or if you were still unable to come. Would you like is to send out an invitation just in case, we’d still love it if you came?”
I’d say ask them personally if they want an invite if they’re pretty close friends or relatives.. If they’re distant relatives or friends of your parents, I’d just send the invitiation without asking. But for those that you CAN ask, might as well try and save on postage and invitations the best way you can
Post # 13
It would depend on who it was, for me. If it was a cousin that I didn’t care if they came or not, I’d take their space to ask someone else! If it was a good friend, I’d still send it, hoping their plans might change.
Post # 14
I’m in the same situation; I sent them invitations even though they said they couldn’t make it. Just in case plans change or if additional information changes the situation. Also, some of them are close friends, so I wanted them to see my invites! Those friends are also invited to the Bachelorette party, so they should receive a proper invite even if they can’t attend the wedding. My invitations were very affordable, so it wasn’t a big deal.
Post # 15
@Ixtlali: You absolutely 100% need to send them to anyone who received an STD, even if they said they can’t make it. This isn’t a place you can cut corners and save on stamps, just send those invites anyway.
Post # 16
I have the same issue with my oot aunts. I knew most of them wouldn’t be able to come, they confirmed apologized & are sending gifts. I feel like they still deserve a proper invitation. Especially since 1 is coming with my grandmother & will likely show them her invitation.