- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
My future SIL never asked me to be her bridesmaid. A couple weeks ago she started sending pictures of bridesmaid’s dresses to me and 7 other women (including her sister) on facebook. Then she texted me asking if I had received the pictures. From this, I assumed she wanted me to be a bridesmaid. We are not close, and I also thought maybe she was only including me out of obligation, since she never called me or asked me in any way.
I emailed her (I know, I should have called…) immediately telling her that I was incredibly flattered and honored that she might want me to be a bridesmaid, but because of my age, nervousness about standing up in front of people, and desire to sit with my two young children during the wedding, I would rather help in some other way than be a bridesmaid. I said it wasn’t that I didn’t want to be in the wedding, just that I didn’t feel comfortable in the bridesmaid roll.
She wrote back telling me she is incredibly offended and upset. I’ve been trying to call her since.
Advice?? Has anyone dealt with this before??