(Closed) Declining to be a Bridesmaid

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you’ve already handled it gracefully.  Nothing more you need to do.  I commend you for being honest with her and I think she’ll come around.  🙂

Post # 4
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6209 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I think you’ve done all you can do and she’s just not taking it as well as she should. You have every right to do what you did- and who knows, she might have said worse things later on when you weren’t able to contribute to her events. 

Post # 5
Member
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think you did a great job in communicating the way you felt the first time. I don’t think that there is anything else left to be said.

Post # 6
Member
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Can I ask what a house party is?
Also, I think you handled it well, and if she chooses to bad mouth you, that reflects poorly on her- not you.

Post # 7
Member
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What is a house party? I think you did the right thing. I would hate to think someone was my bm without fully supporting me.

Post # 8
Member
334 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Though it’s crappy she talked bad about you, I wonder if her feelings are hurt that a bridesmaid declined, even if that wasn’t your intention. I know that my feelings would be a litle hurt, even I understood the logical reason for the decline. Not everyone is good at saying in the moment, “Wow, my feelings are hurt right now and I’m a little sad that you’re saying no” and instead just do something less productive, like talking shit. Maybe the next time you see her you could bring it up and let her know you’re a little worried she might be hurt and that definitely isn’t your intention.

Post # 11
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3295 posts
Sugar bee

She is the one with the problem- not you. She will get over it.

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