Decompartmentalizing your looks?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Chani:  Sorry you are dealing with that.  I don’t do the same thing, but I had a baby last year and it’s taken some time & effort to come to terms with my new shape.  I was catching myself saying negative things about my body, and it’s important to me to nip that asap since I have a daughter.  I decided I am not going to say anything to myself or about myself that I wouldn’t say to her if she grew up to have the exact same body I do.  The first time I thought about saying to her some of the things I have said to myself was a real eye-opener.  It made me feel sick, and there’s just no way I’d ever think about saying those things to her.  So, it has to stop, it has to stop now, and it has to stop with me.

Post # 5
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Chani:  This is really normal. Women are socialized to do this. Part of it is because of media – watch beer commercials/car commercials/etc. and see how often the camera follows an disembodied female body part – ass, breasts, etc. We see ourselves as a collection of parts rather than a whole body. Most beauty information is geared toward body parts – “101 ways to get great hair!” “How to get tan legs!” They become a list of things to improve and monitor.

I don’t know how to overcome it, but this is normal.

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