Post # 1
My husband doesn’t care, but I do — our house is a mess. We have boxes everywhere, and no storage, and no adult furniture. We have his couch from his apartment, the Ikea tv stand I bought when I was 24, a Poang IKEA chair, and a bookcase from Target. Oh, and a dining room table his mom bought us…which is covered in his stuff.
I just said to him, “I want this house to be a home, not like a college apartment. We need to change something.” His response, “I don’t want to think about it.” UGH. So I don’t know how to have a freaking conversation with him about it, and I also don’t know what to do. We have $500 to Ashley Furniture from the wedding, and $100 from William Sonoma.
Any ideas of how we can organize our stupid house without spending a lot of money? We are saving for a (belated) honeymoon in Europe , so it’s not like we can just start saving for furniture as well. But it’s really frustrating that he has absolutely no desire to make the house look nice.
It’s a stupid split level, too, so it’s not like there is anything nice about the house in the first place.
Post # 3
Anybody? I need suggestions!!
Post # 4
i’m a huge ikea fan. half of my parents’ house is from ikea. it is “adult” furniture, in my mind. it’s decently priced, it stands up well, and it looks clean. i love the expedit bookcases. they look nice, you can fit bins and baskets in them, and you can store a lot of stuff in them.
as for organizing- do you have a container store nearby? i LOVE the container store. target has good organizing tools as well. start small. choose one area of the house, and figure out how you want to organize. do you have closet space? install shelves, use containers on the shelves. underbed storage is also awesome. i swear by our underbed storage bins. we have a TINY closet, so most of our clothes are in bins under the bed.
http://www.youtube.com/user/HomeOrganizing has loads of great ideas for organizing. she’s a little annoying, but her ideas are great. her youtube videos are helpful, and she has a blog.
Post # 5
Do you have a basement or spare bedroom? Can you jsut toss the boxes in there and unpack them as needed so you can at least start with a clean slate? How long have u been living there? If there’s stuff still boxed up, sounds like you dont even need it. Maybe it’s a good time to purge and just declutter to start with. Do you have wall space? Are you handy? I’d start with just buying some 1×12 pine and making some custom book or wall shelves for storage. A 8′ board is only like $20, and a can of stain is <$10. Check out anawhite.com for nice cheap easy furniture plans. If you hate his couch, I’d spend the Ashley card on a couch, and then check out overstock for a nice tv stand. I’ve bought a tv stand, coffee table, buffet and dining set from overstock and love them all, and it was a lot cheaper than brick and mortar furniture stores. Have you painted? A little paint color that you love and simple wall hangings go a loooong way to make a space feel homey.
Post # 6
We started with the same issue and my clutter personality is more of a sorter or concealer (basically I want everything packed away). DH didn’t care and just wanted me to deal with it, so basically I came up with the budget and said “I want to spend X each month on things like Y until this is taken care of.” And he was pretty much “whatever fine” about it. We still have a ways to go, but I started in the living room and kitchen since the storage there was the worst and those were the rooms that we’re in the most. We’re not done, but the objective was to do as much as possible with as little as possible.
We have bookcases from the Habitat from Humanity Restore and other shelves I built myself. The Dollar Store also has good baskets for things. Every couple of weeks I end up going through things (there is still a closet where things are sorted and hidden away until there’s time to deal with it. This isn’t a full time affair for us, but it definitely is something we work on at least one weekend a quarter. And for his stuff… well I usually sort what I know what to do with and throw the rest in a laundry basket for him to go through while we’re watching TV (the $5 laundry baskets are great for an initial sort of things).
Anyway, I hope this helps. We’re by no means done, but it’s what we did to start getting the house to the organized masterpiece I hope I will one day be.
Post # 7
@colorofmyheart: We have neither a Container Store nor an Ikea close by…and I don’t think my husband would go for Ikea furniture, no matter how nice it looked.
I forced him to talk to me about it, and our plan is to use the $500 to Ashley Furniture, add a few hundred each, and ask our parents for help in buying some furniture for Christmas.
Our closets are full already. It’s not even that we have that much stuff!!! I’m going to go through everything next weekend with the goal of getting rid of stuff. Maybe I could convince my husband to do the same…
Do you have a link to the woman’s blog? I hate watching videos for information.
Post # 8
@peachacid: well, that sucks. those are my two favorite stores, lol.
i agree with your solution about the furniture. i also think you should clean out. go through the closets, empty all the boxes. figure out what you absolutely have to keep, and what you can live without. donate, toss, and keep.
and her blog is here: http://www.alejandra.tv/blog/
Post # 9
@peachacid: We are in kind of the same boat. Random/mismatched furniture – mostly from his gradschool days- and the clutter seems to appear on its own and reproduce. Plus, we’re in a split-level that has almost no storage downstairs.
We bought a couple Expedites from Ikea. One is downstairs under the breakfast bar (which we never use for eating anyway). We put those storage basket/box things in it. It serves as a secondary pantry/entertainment or not often used dishes/random stuff that needs to be downstairs but also out of site unit. The other serves as a room divider in our gigantic bedroom and has boxes that contain my craft stuff, his random paperwork stuff, and generally shit that would be on the diningroom table if I let it.
We will be getting a “sofa table”, which is like a narrow sort of high table that is supposed to go behind your couch. We’re looking for one with some drawers. The thought is we could put our laptops on them if we wanted to work in the living room but we could stash paper/pens/work junk in the drawers so the table wouldn’t get full of stuff.
Basically, for us every damn piece of furniture we buy from here on out HAS TO have storage. If everything has a place, there’s less of an excuse to have clutter, or at least the clutter is hidden. Then once a month or so, go through the box/drawer that’s full of papers and put it where it REALLY belongs.
Post # 10
@MexiPino: I like the idea of a table behind the couch…thanks!
I just wish clutter would just…poof! disappear.
Post # 11
@pinkshoes: +1 on the Ana White suggestion. There are a ton of ideas on how to build things and you can see how others modified the plans to suit their needs (which was a huge help for me to learn the basics of building). I had never built anything prior to the bookcases and now I’m starting on building a new dresser to replace the one I had from college.
I really like I Heart Organizing (http://iheartorganizing.blogspot.com/p/iheart-project-gallery_19.html) and A Bowl Full of Lemons (http://www.abowlfulloflemons.net/category/organize). Not everything on there is my taste, but I like seeing the different options out there.
Post # 12
I’m redecorating right now. I have two suggestions:
-Declutter. Even if you don’t have that much stuff it’s still good to do a purge. Don’t hold on to anything that doesn’t fit with the lifestyle you are aiming for.
– Don’t immediately run out and buy all new stuff. Consider what pieces will truly have an impact. For example, new throw pillows on a couch can completely change a room.
At the end of the day redecorating is a process. It may take a while to get where you want to be, but if you keep editing and trying new things you will get there, even on a small budget.
Best of luck!
Post # 13
Thanks everyone! I’m going to start the decluttering process this week. We’re going to Ikea next weekend to look around (I’m so happy he went for that!).
Another Peachacid Problem SOLVED. =)
Post # 14
@peachacid: How did this end up for you? I’m going through something similar.
Post # 15
@peachacid: also keen to hear how it’s going??
At the moment we have a good quality couch and just bought two new fabulous office chairs, and new dining set. Still have our bed we bought for buckets, never compromised on that.
Still have the ikea entertainment unit and coffee table and desk, and a really badly knocked up outside table we got 2nd hand. All three are damaged beyond hell but Ive grown to love them… I’m thinking of doing a DIY refresh job on the ouside table as weather has worn off the varnish and it’s really worn now. I’ll eventually upgrade the desk and coffee/ent unit.
Nothing against Ikea though! It could be just that you have the cheap end Ikea stuff. Their Hemnes stuff is exquisite and I am in LOVE with it but they were going to charge nearly $200 for all the delivery to me so we chose to go elsewhere with free delivery.
Depends on WHAT furniture you choose. I’m going for all the same “style” within the same shop so it’s streamlined and matches. Everything will look much better if it matches