Post # 1
I’m not sure if this is odd or not, or maybe it’s even common and I just havent heard of it yet.
My Mom’s Mother passed away when my Mom was about 15 years old. Needless to say I have never met her, but for some strange reason, I’ve always felt a connection with her.
I’ve had dreams of her, a dream so vivid that I could remember everything about her, down to what she was wearing in her hair. When I woke up in the morning I told my Mom about the dream and she started crying because I had described an outfit her Mom used to always wear… something I could never have known.
I wanted to make an announcement (or just announce it before our speech) that instead of doing the traditional bouquet toss, I’m going to dedicate my bouquet to her. When I return home the next morning after the wedding, I’d like to go to her grave and place my bouquet there.
Is this an odd idea? Will people understand? Or would it be a bit too morbid to make mention of at a wedding? I wouldn’t go into detail about it at the wedding like I just did here. Just say instead of the toss, i’ll dedicate it to her.
What do you girls think?
Post # 3
What a beautiful thought. If you are uncomfortable making an announcement, put it in your programs. “In lieu of a bouquet toss the bride’s bouquet will be placed on the grave of M____, the bride’s grandmother, who is with us in spirit today.” I think this is a beautiful and creative idea. Your mother will be so touched.
Post # 4
I think that is a wonderful idea! I’m including forget-me-nots in my bouquet for my grandmother, but now I may have to “steal” this idea. I think its really precious. I should add the I think Fitzly’s idea is really great.
Post # 5
I love this idea and I think I’m going to do it for my grandmother as well!
Post # 6
I think just a little mention in the program is fine.
And I know what you’re talking about with your Grandma. I have the same thing with my Great Grandpa (I have super young parents, so I had lots of Great Grands when I was born). I was born on his birthday and he was alive to meet me, but he passed away 3 months later. When I got older (4 or so), I had a dream about him where he told me to call him “Great Grandpappie.” No one else really talked about him, so it was weird to them that I woke up one day and started talking about my Great Grandpappie. They all wanted to know who I was talking about. When I said my Granddad’s Dad, they all looked at me funny, so I just kept talking about him. They couldn’t believe it, but what I was saying was undeniable to them. I’ve called him Great Grandpappie ever since and no one thinks twice about it. I think of him like my Guardian Angel. He’s always got my back. Since I lost my uncle with the same birthday too, I now feel like I have 2 people covering me.
Post # 7
what a sweet idea. I don’t think it is morbid at all!
Post # 8
My father passed away about a year and a half ago, and I’m planning to put my bouquet on his grave. I didn’t really think about making that dedication known, but I might consider it now. Either way I think it’s a meaningful way to honor a loved one you’ve lost.