Post # 1
So, I recently found myself involved in a conversation about deep, dark secrets. The girl I was speaking with pretty much implied that you can’t have a good marriage unless your husband knows about all if the skeletons in your closet….
…it made me think about a couple of secrets I have that nobody knows about (except the person/people involved) I have not/will never tell anyone these secrets, including my Fiance and I don’t think this means we have any less of a relationship, just that I’d rather him not know about a couple of really effed up things I did in my past.
What do you girls think?? Do you have any skeletons in your closet that you wouldn’t tell FI?
ETA: my secrets do not involve anything that will harm Fiance or myself or anyone else….just a couple of things I’m pretty embarassed about.
Post # 3
I think its a loaded topic! What you find non threatening someone else might have a bird over lol. I think embarrassing stuff like you pooped you pants isn’t necessary but if its really horrible it most of the time finds its way out somehow-unless its between you and your grave and their is absolutely no reason any of it could come up or you would ever be compelled to tell through guilt or some life crisis etc.
Post # 4
Yea its certainly not something that will likely ever come out or would cause crisis…it’s just pretty screwed up and I’d prefer people not know (FI included). I guess I was just curious about what people’s viewpoints are on this.
Post # 5
My Darling Husband knows EVERYTHING, even the “darkest” secrets i have.
I once told him the secret i thought i would keep to my grave, when he haerd it he laughed and said: “that’s your darkest secret, that’s silly”
Post # 6
my Darling Husband knows everything about me too, stuff that not even my parents know.
Post # 7
My Fiance knows everything. Some things I was embarassed to tell him, but I kind of like that he knows everything about me.
Post # 8
@Anamagana: We’re the same. We go for full disclosure. It works for us.
Post # 9
My fiance knows pretty much everything, especially one certain thing that my parents do not know about.
Post # 10
Actually my husband pretty much knows everything. Now I want to rack my brain and see if there’s anything he doesn’t know…
Post # 11
I think Darling Husband knows everything. If there’s stuff he doesn’t know yet, I would be okay telling him. Then again, I have a fairly vanilla past, so my deep, dark secrets are more like slightly below ground-level, semi-shaded secrets.
Post # 12
Darling Husband knows everything. He is one of the only people who really knows everything and one of the only people who doesn’t judge. He doesn’t think twice (about my things). I think that is why he is right for me. It is as if his security gives me security. By him knowing and not judging me, I think it helps me not judge myself.
I don’t know Miss Orchard, I think only you know what is right for you….
Post # 13
I guess it would depend. For me, if it’s bad enough to be considered a “skeleton in your closet” than yeah, your Darling Husband should probably know. If it’s just something embarrassing that couldn’t hurt anything besides perhaps your pride, (I like a PPs example of “I pooped my pants” hehehe), then no. I mean, you should be comfortable enough to share it, but I understand a girl’s gotta have her pride, and maybe she doesn’t want her Darling Husband to know she pooped in the middle of the street while wearing a wedding dress she was trying on.
Post # 14
While I don’t think hiding things is always a good idea (and never things that could be hurtful/come back and bite you), I think personal secrets are an important part of anyone’s privacy. If something comes up about said secret(s), I definately think you should discuss it. Or if keeping the secret is giving you stress and anxiety, then you should definately tell your trusted Darling Husband. Otherwise, I dont think it’s always necessary.
Post # 15
@Miss Apricot: lol @ Bridesmaids reference
Post # 16
@Miss Apricot: Haha!
I guess my Fiance knows about the “skeletons”, aka big things. Anything else that didn’t have a big impact on my life/that doesn’t keep me up at night can stay in the past.