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Ouch!! That's awful! I've had spa massages before and they never hurt. (Once in a while, a tiny bit of pain, but that's it). It sounds like she was way too rough. So sorry you had a bad, bad experience. Just curious-are there reviews for the place on the internet? If there are, I'd be curious to see what other people wrote. Sorry you didn't enjoy it. :(
I am so sorry your first ever spa day was such a crappy experience! Let me assure you, when a spa day is GOOD, you get all those nice feelings you thought you would have. That being said, a couple of things came to mind reading your post:
1) Was the person performing your massage a Registered Massage Therapist (RMT) or simply a person who received training in massage for spa therapy? If you just want a nice relaxation massage, spa therapists do a great job, but for things like deep tissue, I usually only trust an RMT.
2)You are right, communication was lacking on her part. But if I were you, I would have whimpered more than "ow". Spa massages aren't cheap, and if they were hurting me, I would have let her know it, and if she continued to hurt me, stop the massage or ask for a different therapist. Sometimes spa massages can run as high as $100 or more an hour, so I am not going to pay someone $100 plus tip to destroy my back.
3) Sometimes, deep tissue massage DOES feel uncomfortable, becuase they use firm pressue to release pressure points in the deeper tissues of the body. When deep tissue massage is performed correctly by an RMT, there are some points where you may experience discomfort, but never the kind of pain you describe. What it really sounds like is you wanted a nice relaxation massage (where they use light pressure).
Hopefully the info I have given you can help you make a more informed choice the next time you choose to spa (and I hope you do, they are so great, I PROMISE!). It sucks that you and your friend had that horrible experience. I would review the spa on YELP so that others can avoid this lady!
Ugh that sucks! My mom is a massage therapist who works through a doctors office so her massages tend to be a little harder and can hurt, but she knows I am a baby and unless I have a specific issue she gives me the light and fluffy. My point is that a professional should be able to provide the type of massage you want. And she should KNOW how much pressure to apply, it should never be THAT intensly painful. Sorry you had such a yucky time!!
After I was in a car accident (rear ended at full speed while stopped- ow!) I needed some PT, including massage therapy for my back. Oh My GOODNESS those deep tissue massages hurt. I went home feeling like garbage, even if I went in feeling ok. I think that if you go again, be sure to clarify what kind of massage you want. I think you'll be happy with a regular massage. Deep tissue can really get you! Make sure to pop an advil next time 45 mins before you go to your appointment.
@ Jenn - thank you for your words. I did find some reviews for the place online, but suprisingly (and I'm so serious when I say SURPRISINGLY!) the reviews were about half and half.. Some people had only good stuff to say about the place (& I know I'm getting a little "conspiracy theory" when I say this, but I almost BET those people are either friends or family of the owner because the place was BAD!!!!)
@ Valhalla - I have no idea if she was an RMT. I would have asked for someone else, but here's the thing: She and the owner are apparently the only people that work there! The place is tiny and cramped (very very VERY out of date - seriously, like probably hasn't had a makeover since the early 90's) and the owner was in the other room with my friend doing her facial while I was getting the massage and then we switched rooms! I didn't want to make a scene and ruin the day because my friend was VERY generous by paying for me, but wow.. I know sometimes massages will be painful, I've known several people and have heard about them before. I know they have to press harder on stress points to get the knot out or whatever, but there is a difference between rubbing a knot out and trying to POP IT OUT THE OTHER SIDE! I thought her hand was going to go right through me!!!
I'm definately going to leave a review for the place. It was beyond dissappointing and I will spread the word about it for sure. People need to be informed and forewarned that if they are seeking a truly relaxing and wonderful spa day, they need to seek it elsewhere!
Thanks for reading this ;)
Deep tissue massages really DO hurt! So, so bad... and for days!! Drink a TON of water - really, do it! Next time (don't let it scare you away!) ask for a stress relief massage - deep tissue isn't a relaxtion massage! :)
@ Layla - yeah they told me to drink lots of water (to remove toxins?) so I've been trying to do that... in the meantime, there's always ibuprofen!
Yes, next time I am DEFINATELY asking for a relaxation massage!
Did you ASK for the deep tissue massage or did you ask for a regular or relaxation massage? They are completely different and deep tissue massages are almost supposed to hurt because its so much pressure to get knots and kinks out. I got a deep tissue one because I was in such pain after working on my feet for an entire weekend walking about 45 miles total. It hurt like hell but I knew I needed it. Alot of the time, deep tissue massages are used by athletes, dancers, etc. The massage therapist even asked if I was a dancer because he said most people that arent dancers or athletes cant handle that much pressure.
I wouldnt never not get a masage again, you just had bad experience. Ask for a relaxation massage or a regular massage and dont be afraid to speak up if it hurts. They are asking you to tell them if the touch is too light or too hard for a reason. And even if they dont ask, you should feel comfortable to tell them.
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So, on Wednesday me and a friend had a "spa day". We went to a place we had never been to before (this being my first time EVER to have a spa day) and part of the package included a massage. Well, when I hear the word "spa" and "massage" I immediately think of fluffy white clouds made out of only the finest towels and gentle breezes blowing across my face as I lay there being pampered by Skilled Technicians of Beauty and Relaxation to the peaceful sounds & smells of tropical waterfalls.
OMG was I ever wrong.
The place we went to was HORRIBLE. I will never tell my friend this, because it was her generosity that paid for our Spa day, but I think I would have had more fun and relaxtion in the ring at a UFC wrestling match. I will spare you all the detailed list of reasons why the experience was so horrid, but I will sum it up by saying there was a complete lack of professionalism and communication, and due to the overall experience at this point I am seriously questioning the reputability of the place. The owner herself was the worst of all. Rude is an understatement.
Let me get back to the theme of the post. Massage.
I liked the massage therapist ok (who told me she had been doing that for 10 years, and has an associate's in it). She was nice enough, an asian woman with a heavy accent, and we didn't communicate much (which was fine with me because I was there to relax) but during my almost 2 hrs of her pampering me, I really began to wonder if she knew exactly what she was doing. The massage hurt like CRAP. She told me a few times "If I am hurting you, tell me" so when I couldn't bare it anymore I would whimper or say ow, and she would lighten up, but then pretty much immediately go back to torturing me.
Now, it's true, I had never had a professional massage before, but even afterwards, when my friend was done with her massage, she told me that it hurt really really bad. And my friend lived in Japan for 4 years and got massages all the time! She said the one we got hurt worse than any she had ever had!
That isn't the only thing that soured me to the place, but like I said, I'd be typing forever if I went into all of it. It was really dissappointing and I really don't think that place needs to be in business. It's been 2 days and my left shoulder blade still feels like someone hit me with a baseball bat. I'm surprised my upper back is not black and blue.
Thanks for reading this. It was a complete vent I know, but I'm still in shock.