Post # 1
So I recently got engaged (yay!) and my FI bought the Blue Nile ring I had my eye on. Now that I get to show my ring off, some people ask if we mind telling them where we got it from. I’m not going to lie and it is a funny part of our engagement story (I actually signed for my own ring).. but I feel a little weird when we say online. They are usually like “I hope it’s a reputable place”, “what about if there’s a problem”, “what if they go out of business?”, “you had to get it mailed?”, “but you couldn’t see what you were buying”, etc etc.
I’m getting a little fed up trying to defend our choice of going with Blue Nile instead of a local jeweler or Zales/Kay. I had looked around but just didn’t find anything I liked enough. (Also I know my FI is kinda lazy and shy but I don’t mention that). How would you respond to those questions when all these people who are asking went out and personally picked out their bands and diamonds?
Post # 3
DH got my ring at BlueNile. And then my wedding band too. We had a great experience with them and I love my rings. I think Blue Nile is very reputable. We got a good deal, but not that good of a deal that it would seem questionable.
I probably wouldn’t even give a response, other than saying you love your ring.
Post # 4
That is so strange to me. I wonder if you are giving off a vibe when you are answering the question that is asking people to make those comments? Because I just can’t imagine anyone saying that to me. I’m just wondering if you’re using some sort of qualifier that encourages them to ask more questions, like “Well….” or “It’s kind of a funny story…” or “Believe it or not…”
When someone asks you, just say with confidence, “FI picked it out from Blue Nile. Didn’t he do a great job?”
And.. topic change! Topic change is ALWAYS helpful!
FI got my ring online (and it’s moissanite at that!) and I haven’t gotten a single comment.
Post # 5
Dude, online rocks! Screw them and don’t let them get to you. You got the ring of your dreams, who cares where it came from? Maybe whn you say it was from online say it’s from a very well established and respecte online store?
Post # 6
@LOLgirl: Who are these people saying these things to you!? My ring is from etsy and I tell people that and no one has ever said anything except ‘Wow! I didn’t know you could get stuff like that on Etsy’
I don’t know how I would respond to those things – I would probably just brush off the question and say ‘oh, I’m not worried’ very breezily.
Post # 7
My diamond is from James Allen. I’ve never had anyone ask me those questions but I agree that is sounds weird to say “online”. I would just preface it by saying you got it on Blue Nile and tell them it came from the NY diamond district (which it probably did) and you got a deal. Once I tell people that I got my stone for 2k less than I would’ve at a brick and mortar they usually say “wow” or “wish I would’ve known about them when I was shopping” etc
Post # 8
@LOLgirl: i personally think that bluenile has a far better selection of quality diamonds than kays/zales/peoples, etc. you just can’t see the stone before you buy it. don’t let what other people think bother you. you are the only one who needs to be happy.
i would totally buy from bluenile.
Post # 9
You don’t have to lie, but you don’t have to give out information either. Just be vague about it. It’s not lying, it’s just being vague 🙂
Post # 10
@NAvery: I agree with this. Just tell them you got it from Blue Nile and comment on how great your FH did picking it out and then change the subject. If you change the subject, they should stop asking questions.
Post # 11
I would probably say “Why are you asking me this?” to put the awkwardness on them where it belongs, but then again I’m not terribly friendly. Have they seriously never heard of Blue Nile?
Post # 13
My FI bought my ring on ebay. It appraised for twice what he paid, it’s beautiful, and we’ve had no problems with it. Don’t worry about people’s comments–you don’t need to defend your choice, just enjoy!
Post # 14
Cracks me up, because Blue Nile stuff is generally higher quality than anything you’ll find at a mall jeweler. And they have a GREAT return policy.
Post # 15
My ring is from Blue Nile and I have yet to walk into a mall jeweler and find anything I like nearly as much as I like my ring. And I’ve had the jewelers and the brick and mortar stores comment on the quality of my stone.
Post # 16
I would say that after comparing zales/Kay with blue Nile you were able to get a far superior product for less money and its a total no brainer? Ok maybe I wouldn’t….but that’s what I would think! Just tell them (confidently) that its from blue nile and its awesome! Then change the topic.