Post # 1
How would you feel about your SO/DH ” defending your honor” in public? What if it turned into a fight? Shoving and yelling? Snide comment back?
Short example: at a football game this weekend, a few men made a lewd comment to me as I was passing by that my DH heard. He confronted them, and a fight almost erupted. He apologized for ” embarassing” me numerous times… but to be honest, I wasn’t embarrased at all. If punches were thrown and people were ejected/arrested, I may be singing a different tune. However; words were exchanged, a few shoves and points made… then everyone went back to the game and those men left me (us) alone.
How would you feel if your DH/SO took up for you in a confrontational manner? Do you feel like confrontation is never necessary? Would YOUR DH/SO be quick to jump up and intervene? Just curious!
ETA: Added a poll. Everyone loves those
Post # 3
If he did anything like that, I’d be floored. Because that’s not his style at all. If anything, it would have been me getting in those men’s faces and FI trying to pull me away.
Post # 4
To me, that is part of being a good husband. My husband is certainly not a hothead who would jump at the chance to exchange words (or blows) with someone, but in the event that I was threatened or majorly disrespected, I would hope that he would want to defend me.
Post # 5
@MASPA: Same here
Last summer, FI and I went to a Red Sox/Yankees game at Yankee Stadium. We are Sox fans and had never gone to a game at the new Yankee Stadium yet so we thought it would be a blast. Thinking I was all bad-ass, I still decided to wear a sox shirt even though we were in enemy territory and the lewd comments begun. It was a tough situation but FI knew if he stood up for me, he would get attacked by Yankee fans and if I stood up for myself that it would make him look like a pansy.
Post # 6
I think there is a line. In the unlikely case I got cat called or something, I’m a big fan of just ignoring it. But if someone started making obvious and lewd or rude suggestions, I would be okay with DH saying something like “Shut up that is MY wife.” but I never think a fist fight solves anything.
Post # 7
Anything that even could get into the realm of a physical altercation, I’m against. Partly because my DH (eek, that’s new!) has martial arts training and could cause real damage, and partly because I am confident in myself about dealing with that kind of thing, and actually I have some martial arts training myself. But my training says that the best fight is one that doesn’t happen, and I am aware that if I defend myself from comments by confronting a guy, he doesn’t feel the need to stand up to me and gets embarrassed instead. I would rather deal with it myself, or mostly just ignore.
Post # 8
Words I’m fine with. I would want him to stand up for me, because I’d probably be too shy to do it myself. I wouldn’t want him to get into a fist fight or anything that would involve authorities, though.
Post # 9
I had an ex who felt the need to “defend” me for every little thing…I’m talking a guy glancing at me “the wrong way” in a bar. It was one of the reasons I broke up with him. So no, I don’t care for my DH to get in any shouting matches or fist fights over some idiot making a snide comment. Unless I’m physically in danger I prefer to just ignore it.
Post # 10
If someone said something inaprropriate to me I would expect him to stick up for me. Actually i would most likely yell something back and then he would have no choice..
Post # 11
If it was just something that was said I’d expect him to just keep walking because why the hell should we care what some stranger says? It doesn’t seem worth our time to “handle” and my honor is not so fragile that I’d be concerned about it.
Now, if someone put their hands on me? Yea I’d be okay with him throwing a punch 🙂
Post # 12
@McFierce: had I known the context of everything– I would’ve said something to them myself. I got up to go to the bathroom and they said something inappropriate to me on the way up, and while I was gone, they started loudly talking about which cheerleaders they wanted to fu*k and trade around with each other. On my way back to the seat one of the guys pointed at me and said ” I’d take that one” loudly, and in front our entire section. That’s what set DH off, but I didn’t even know what they were talking about until after the confronation and my friend told me what all was said.
Post # 13
@CorgiTales: yes… if hands were placed on me I would have been the one to throw the punch haha. Well, maybe not but I would’ve gotten to them way before DH had a chance to!
Post # 14
I actually like how my FI will defend my honor. (He hasn’t had the chance, though.) I’m too timid and shy to say anything but the FI will.
Post # 15
I know my honor would be defended at the drop of a hat. Not that my guy is violent, but he’s very protective of me and my health and well-being. It’s comforting to know that I have someone to depend on and will step in for me when I can’t defend myself physically.
It’s kind of sexy, too, honestly. Knight in shining armor! 😉
Post # 16
@Torrid: Oh I think my DH’s head would explode if I called him my knight in shining armor haha. After his display of manhood, and then OTHER men coming down to tell him they would have done the same thing…. he was pretty dang proud of himself