Post # 1
I wasn’t sure where to post this, so I thought the emotional board would be the most appropriate as my best friend said I was having a shotgun wedding after finding out that our wedding is nine months away, since I’m recently engaged. If it matters, our wedding is a smally family-only (parents/grandparents) and a few friends wedding followed by a nice dinner downtown, we aren’t having a big 300 person show, just a small ceremony followed by dinner with our closest relatives and friends. We’re also touring the city a bit and doing some fun activities since everyone (other than us) is from out of town. Is this a “shotgun” wedding? It really hurt my feelings that she said that and I don’t know what to think now, I thought “shotgun” weddings only happened when the bride was pregnant (which I’m not, I could get pregnant now and give birth before the wedding if I wanted, not that I do but I could)??? Opinions please! We don’t want to wait longer than the date we selected, we both feel that for a 20 person affair 9 months is more than enough time.
Post # 3
good question. i dont know either
i guess if the bride is pregnant, the dad holds a shotgun to the guy who got her that way and makes him marry her?
if so, that sounds nothing like what ur wedding is going to be like
Post # 4
@SlovenePrincess: You are correct in your definition- a shotgun wedding is when you get married because you are pregnant, the implication being that your father is “forcing” the man to marry you (as in, holding a gun to his head) because he got you pregnant). Your friend is most likely just making the joke because your engagement is 9 months and pregnancy is 9 months. Don’t take it seriously.
Post # 5
Your friend is mistaken. A “shot gun wedding” is one where the guy has marry you because you dad motivated him by pointing a shot gun at him because he got you preganant.
I think that “these days” people confuse it with a wedding that is happening quickly… i wouldnt put much thought into.. im sure she wasnt trying to offend you.
My Fiance and I are only having a 6month engagement and i definitely get a lot “oh are you pregnant..” it took me a while to get over being offended.. no we hav just been together for 6 years, ITS TIME!!!
Post # 6
shotgun wedding.. is where the couple is ONLY getting married because of a pregnancy and where the father of the bride is ‘forcing’ the groom to do it.
Post # 7
yupp no need to echo the PPs cos that’s what the definition is. I *used* to think it meant a quick engagement for some reason, but nope. She’s just talkin out her ass.
Post # 8
SHotgun wedding = a couple getting married who otherwise would not be due to circumstances like pregnancy and a conservative family who would not accept them not getting married.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forced_marriage#Shotgun_wedding Refute her logic with wikipedia :3
Logically a shotgun wedding would be way shorter than 9 months because it’d take time to realise you’re pregnant and then get married before the baby was born.
Post # 11
@SlovenePrincess: 9 months is plenty of time. i was in a wedding last year that had a 6-month lead-up, and a dear friend of mine got engaged last week and set a date in early August. if you can work out the planning fast enough, more power to you. it’s none of no one else’s business.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@SlovenePrincess: Your friend has no idea what she’s talking about…
Post # 14
fwiw… we had a 7 month engagement… people thought it was because of one of two reasons 1)I was pregnant or 2)catholic guilt/or actually a virgin and wants to get laid
None of the reasons above, I just didn’t want to wait any longer and it fit the mandatory time frame the church required (6+ months of engagement)
Post # 15
No, it’s not a shotgun wedding.
IMO this means that one party (specifically the groom) doesn’t want to get married but is feeling forced into it (e.g., because of a pregnancy, but could be for other reasons). It’s not a flattering term, and I’d be offended in your place as well.
Post # 16
I was engaged for exactly 9 months as well, and this was a favourite joke. I think just because you hear “nine months”, you think “pregnancy”.
FWIW, mine was a “regular” 100 person wedding and 9 months was plenty of time. We just wanted to get married in the summer and didn’t want to wait 21 months for it to roll around again.