Post # 1
One of my friends told me the other day that the first things I need to do are lock down a budget (given), ask my wedding party (eh..?), and figure out my theme. And my FMIL is already asking about colors. So, I’m being brought to the question “how does one define a wedding ‘theme?'” FI and I have several more abstract things in common ie: we love food, theatre, and being alone together. None of which really lend themselves to a “theme.”
So I guess I’m asking how do you bees define a “theme” – can it just be a color scheme? And what did you guys do/what are you planning?
Post # 3
Our theme is wedding. I really hate “theme” weddings – its not a bar mitzvah! We just choose a color scheme we liked and went from there.
Post # 4
@flaxenfox: I’ve always been a fan of wedding themed weddings….if the couple has something they really want to illustrate as a couple, I’m always interested and happy to see those little touches, but if they don’t…I won’t notice.
We didn’t have a theme…we didn’t have a palette and it didn’t matter…I just wanted a pretty dress, some cake and to be married at the end.
Post # 5
@flaxenfox: A theme generally means some sort of gimmick, for lack of a better word. We’re having a bit of a theme – 1920’s inspired, and our evening reception is a Speakeasy. We are encouraging (but not demanding) period attire. Everyone is finding out the reception venue the day of the wedding, and there will be a password. They do, however, know it is withn a couple of km of the ceremony, and in the downtown core (a pretty small area in Vancouver).
You don’t need a theme. You should pick a colour scheme, but it can be as specific or nonspecific as you like. It could be “these three pantones, nothing else” or it could be “summery colours” or “tropical colours” or “red and gold.”
Post # 6
No theme. I never heard of this until the bee.
My Bat Mitzvah had a theme.
For my wedding, maybe simple elegance?
Post # 7
Let me first start off by apologizing because my new nick name is the anti bride. I love the fact that I am marrying the most beautiful gift God could have given me and that is my FI, but all of the wedding stuff is such a raquet. Having said that, I was approched with the theme, and I say WHY…. why does your wedding have to be a gimmick…. If you want one that is fine, but don’t let people convice you that is a requirement. I am having no theme… but our colors will be carried over into the reception.
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@flaxenfox: Gahhh no, you don’t need one!! Just pick a palette you want to stick within (and no, you don’t need to do this immediately depending on your timeline). This isn’t a birthday party.
Post # 9
The only theme like thing we’re planning on is a Super Mario cake.
Post # 10
No no no. I don’t like the idea of having a theme! I like the color scheme Idea which my color is mint/tiffany blue, but even with colors I think it can be over done…
Post # 11
Ours is just a casual small wedding. It’s the first day of summer, so I’m just incorporating a few small summer details: sunflowers, lemonade, my dress, sandal heels, bbq catering, blueberry filled cupcakes, and specialty summer pre-made alcholic drinks (watermelon mararittas). FI is having a special summer ale beer that he likes.
Post # 12
@creeative1: I’m also being called anti-bride. I was asked for our theme and colors.. my answer was black and white (formal, black tie) and was told ‘that’s no fun!’.
I have no theme, and daydream about asking my guests to only wear black and white.
Post # 13
@creeative1: I’m starting to feel that way too. It never seems to be enough that I just want to be married to FI.
@angeluscado: That is awesome! Are you doing it via topper or full cake design?
Post # 14
Our theme is “stuff that makes us happy.”
Our unofficial theme is “lanterns” (which also falls under “stuff that makes us happy”) I don’t even know if we’re going to have lanterns at this point, and I really don’t care! 🙂
You don’t need a theme, the same way you don’t need colors. I have unofficial colors just so that my mom would leave me alone about colors. The only place they apply is invites, wedding party, and flowers. Other than that, our venue is beautiful enough on its own and I’m not going to mess with it.
BTW, planning tip #1 – don’t tell anyone what you’re thinking unless you want to hear a probable negative opinion about it.
I stopped talking about my wedding to people a few months ago, and it made my life a million times better! Plus, planning is much more fun between just my fiance and myself. 🙂
Post # 15
@CakeyP: Haha I’m catching onto this quickly. All of my friends are getting married/have gotten married, and since FI and I have known for a year and some that we were getting married, everyone has wedding fever/thinks they know everything about weddings/has planned my wedding for me/has already picked out my dress. I’m beginning to think I don’t get opinions. FI, myself, and my mother are starting to seriously consider a destination wedding just to alleviate some of the crap that’s starting to fly around.
Post # 16
@flaxenfox: to remedy a bunch of headache, you and your FI should the planning, otherwise it won’t be about what the two of you want, it will be about what their vision is and it creates chaos in your life. I suggest you do the planning and come up with what you want and assign tasks as you see fit to others, but keep things close to your vest. EVERYONE will have an opnion… and remember, it’s only an opinion it does not mean you have to incorporate it.
Glad to know I am not the only anti bride…….