(Closed) Define “trying”

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My initial “trying” will be pulling the goalie – if that doesn’t work than I will go into tracking my cycle etc.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Our was official. We went off BC for 3 mths before, you are suppose to give your body some time to adjust its cycles, but that is what most doctors recommend but everyone is different. Then we started ovulation kits and charting.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

For us, “trying” meant that it was the 1st time we had unprotected sex on the day I was ovulating. Up until then we used FAM to avoid pregnancy. There was nothing casual about trying – we both knew we wanted to conceive and did everything we could to stack the odds in our favor.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

I consider myself trying vs. not preventing. When we stopped all BC, I didn’t necessarily consider myself trying (just not preventing anymore). Now we are tracking and targeting my ovulation days…I am full on trying. We’ve been trying for a year now, with no luck. :o(

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

mssushi, I’m sorry to hear that. It is hard to be patient when you want it to happen so badly. I hope things work out for you soon!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

@MsSushi – sorry this is taking you a while! any well timed vacations in the future? they seem to have lots of fertility magic dust when there is also drinking involved 🙂

In terms of trying, I think it is removing BC in the hopes that one gets pregnant.  Tracking and more full fledged “trying” often happen at some point if the “let’s just see what happens method” doesn’t work.  I think some ppl chart/test from day 1 and others wait a little while….

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Sorry to hear mssushi – hopefully things will look up for you soon!

We consider trying the same way that snmcdowell did. I’m starting to track my cycle now and just came off birth control. If something happens, then awesome, but if not, we’ll start to pinpoint my ovulation.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Like MsSushi had discussed, we didn’t consider ourselves as trying. We just were not preventing it anymore. We essentially pulled the goalie. Now for the next baby, we may chart and do more planning since we want to wait about a year before getting pregnant again.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I don’t consider us trying yet, though there isn’t any goalie.  I consider trying to be not avoiding ‘fertile’ times, and we’re avoiding them right now.  We’re open to kids since there’s no goalie, would be happy to be pregnant, but ideally would rather it not happen for a few months.  We’re a fairly all natural couple and I’ve never taken BC and since we’d like to have kids and are financially stable and all that jazz, we’re going with our own version of NFP, which to me isn’t actively trying too much.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception

Thanks girls! We’re starting to get more pro-active about it now and checking our fertility (via doctor) and thinking about our other options. No vacations in our future, but trying at home is just as fun. ;o)

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

we were definitely trying. we charted everything that ever happened (when we had sex, my temp, etc) and my husband researched things like putting your tush up after sex. it sounds very mechanical, but i promise we had fun too!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Trying = trying when it’s actually possible, not just no BC. At least that’s what it would mean to me.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Well, we weren’t actively “trying” in terms of charting and so on. We just used the “Bomb Germany” approach, as my husband so poetically put it. It worked, anyway. ha ha

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

For those of you who charted – were you successful?

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