Post # 1
DH and I have been together for about 6.5 years, married for almost 2. Every time I give him a BJ, my mouth gets extremely numb/tingly and I have to go brush my teeth, but even that doesn’t completely make it go away! It doesn’t hurt, but a few times it has felt like my throat was swollen. One time (completely by accident) it got in my eye and even though I immediately flushed with water, my eye was swollen and red for about 24 hours (is this normal? Porn would have me believe not).
This has been going on about 6 years, and I’m thinking about it a lot lately because DH is coming back from a deployment soon and naturally we’re very excited to be able to do things again, but I can’t pretend like it isn’t unpleasant for me to give him oral because the whole thing just feels so weird.
Neither of us has ever had another sexual partner. We aren’t using any kind of lube on a regular basis (although a few times we’ve tried flavored lubes to see if it would help. It doesn’t). He doesn’t use any creams to make him last longer or anything. And we’ve never had sex without a condom, so I don’t have anything to go on as far as reactions with regular sex (I really really REALLY don’t want any kids, lol).
I’ve done plenty of google searches and it seems like there are a couple of people who have had the same experience as me, but no one can point them in a specific direction about what it is. Could it be an allergy to semen? Apparently oral allergies are really rare, but what the hell else could it possibly be? Does he just have Super-Semen? Is he Captain America and he’s just not telling me, and the transformation process gave his sperm big manly muscles? WHAT IS THIS?
Post # 3
I think the tingling/numbness and swollen throat might be from the bj itself, not necessarily the semen. I know that if a blowjob goes on for a while, my mouth goes numb pretty quickly, and the swollen throat could just be a result of ongoing friction. You are shoving a blunt object at it repeatedly, I could see some general irritation developing just from that.
As for the eye thing… Yeah, semen in the eye is no fun. I think porn actresses must build up an immunity or something.
(Here’s my TMI) I did date one guy whose semen gave me a horrible reaction down there. Like, itchy, awful reactions that lasted for days. But giving him bjs never bothered my mouth (besides the taste – he was foul, ugh). So, I don’t know, if your ladybits are fine with it, I find it kind of unlikely that you’d have an oral allergic reaction. But maybe talk to your doctor just in case?
Post # 4
@Miss Fish: If you arent having any vaginal reactions when he finishes in you I wouldn’t assume it’s an allergy. To be gross, semen is salty and full of proteins, maybe its just irratating little cuts or abrasions in your mouth. Your doc can do an allergen test I would assume. Theres also a numbing/flavoured product for BJs that may help a bit. It’s called maske or something along those lines.
Post # 5
OP I agree with the PP, my mouth goes numb too but not from semen (only on special occasions!) and I think anyone would have a reaction with getting a shot to the eye
Post # 6
I’ve experienced the numb thing too, but not on a consistent basis. You might have a slight allergy to some of the proteins in his semen. Or, as a PP said, you could be irritating your mouth and lips, and it could be a reaction between the fluid and the tiny scratches and cracks in your mouth.
From what I can tell by Googling, if you were really allergic to his semen, you would get a skin reaction beyond just your mouth. So maybe next time, do some “experimentation,” (bet he’ll be down for it, LOL), swab some of it in a non-chafed location and see if you get hives or welts or anything.
If it’s just the BJ thing, maybe pop an antihistimine beforehand, don’t swallow, and make sure he’s properly hydrated?
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@Miss Fish: Yes. It’s true some people can be allergic to their partner’s sperm. Gross enough for me to type this, but my mom was allergic to my dad’s sperm, and her OBGYN told her that.
Because she was allergic to his sperm (I don’t know what kind of side effects she experienced bc that’s my mom so ew) during her pregnancies her whole entire body itched. She had cascading releases of histomines and nothing she did could make her stop itching. She literally itched herself raw and until she bled.
Post # 8
Why not try doing it with a flavored condom once and see if that helps the issue?
Post # 9
@HeyKaraoke: I really don’t think it’s a friction thing- even if a drop gets on my tongue, it has kind of an Orajel-type reaction. And I don’t know if my ladybits are fine with it, because as I said, we’ve never had sex without a condom.
@Little_Hedgy: Again, I wouldn’t have had any vaginal reactions because I go to great lengths to make sure that it never comes into contact with anything that could result in babies. But I’ll check out the product- maybe that would make it a little easier.
@FutureDrAtkins: Good lord that just resolved my decision to never ever get pregnant, that sounds TERRIBLE 🙁
I have to schedule an appointment with my gyno soon anyway, maybe I’ll ask if they can do an allergy test… thanks for the input everyone.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
@Miss Fish: Hahah I didn’t mean to scare you, but there is a protein in semen that can cause allergic reactions! My mom’s body interpretted my brother and I as foreign invaders and waged a war against us… and her… :/
Post # 11
@Miss Fish: Ummmmmm this my be my own TMI, but I have always sort of though semen made my mouth a little numb, tingly, etc…..
Not don’t get me wrong- I haven’t been with that many people, but I will it’s not just my current guy. Any semen that has come in contact with my mouth has always been sort of “tingly” or “numb”- as a matter of fact, strange as this is, I was sort of trying to explain this to FI awhile ago LOL
Post # 12
Are you sure you’re not allergic to latex?
Post # 13
@FutureDrAtkins: that is TERRIBLE ….wow
Post # 14
Semen in the eye is the WORST. Your reaction is normal. Same with a BJ. You may just be overthinking it! It’s friction. Rubbing back and forth tends to create irritation.
Post # 15
@MrsEME: Oh my goodness at least somebody understands what I’m talking about. I can’t figure out how to describe it other than it’s kind of like his semen is infused with the stuff you use to numb your teeth! I don’t have anyone else to compare it to so I don’t know if that’s my reaction to all semen or just his.
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