Post # 1
My fiance and I are considering delaying our honeymoon for a year. But my friends who have already gotten married have told me that this isn’t a good idea because if we don’t go right after the wedding, we won’t go at all. They said things will come up and will delay our honeymoon even longer. I have mixed feelings, I would love to go on a honeymoon after our wedding, but with the costs of the wedding it would be difficult for us to swing it at this point. We don’t get married for another 8 months and things can change before then. Is anyone else out there delaying their honeymoon?
Post # 3
Oh baloney! the last wedding I went to delayed their honeymoon too. They went on a mini moon to the desert but couldn’t stake anymore vacation days, plus one bride was finishing up her PhD.
We are Considering delaying too. We’re planning to get married in orange county California but now live in Minnesota. I will have to take a week off for the wedding and wont be able to add another 7-10 days and feel comfortable about it.
im sad that I won’t be directly flying off to the islands but I’m sure ill be super exhausted and staying somewhere in Laguna isn’t half bad 😉
would you consider a mini moon the night of your wedding
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Post # 4
We are delaying ours. I have heard the same things as you but it’s just not financially feasible for us to go right after our wedding. We have no concerns about delaying it.
Post # 5
@lovelylight99: So you and your FI don’t take vacations normally?
Our official honeymoon will be delayed for a few months, because the weather is still beautiful where we live the month we get married, and we’d much rather vaction south at a time when we can escape the cold.
You could always consider renting a cottage or getting a room for a week in a B&B out of town if you don’t have the cash to do something more extravagant. I do think taking a week off after the wedding to decompress is a good idea (something we are also doing)
Post # 6
We are! I wanted to enjoy our honeymoon but know the wedding will exhaust me so we scheduled ours for the end of October. That will give him time to work some mad overtime between the wedding and the honeymoon so finances wont be tight. I am looking forward to it!
Post # 7
That is what I thought too. Why would it matter if we went on a honeymoon right after the wedding or a year after the wedding? My fiance and I are trying not to start our marriage off with a lot of debt if any related to our wedding planning. We are also trying to save money for our first home. We are considering taking a min-moon after our wedding or if we did do a honeymoon, going somewhere within the United States. I am curious what people’s thoughts are on honeymoon registries? I am not sure how I feel about these, I kind of feel like we are asking for money and it would be better for guests to have the options of purchasing gifts of their own choosing or off of our wedding registry.
Post # 8
I’m not delaying, but I wanted to say I think your friends are right. Even if you do make it in a year it’ll just feel like a vacation and not that just married, excited feeling. If you have 8 months many resorts and hotels offer early booking specials. We saved 50% by booking early. Also a lot of places offer honeymoon specials and discounts. Some places I looked at let you stack the deals… like 50% off for early booking and free room upgrade and champagne if you bring your new marrige license.
You have time to start finding ways to save or earn more money. I learned to use coupons by searching websites online and went from spending $150-$200 a week on groceries & other household items to $50.
Post # 9
@lovelylight99 My cousin just did one in May and it didn’t do well for him and his wife. They did end up gettning a lot of money, but people gave it in person at the wedding and not online. We put little cards with the invitations with information about it, so it’s not like they didn’t tell people.
Post # 10
“But my friends who have already gotten married have told me that this isn’t a good idea because if we don’t go right after the wedding, we won’t go at all.”
If you two really want to go on a trip you’ll go on a trip when the time is right. Who cares if it’s called a honeymoon or not? I cannot envision a couple NEVER going on vacation ever again. Call the next trip a honeymoon if it feels better to you.
Post # 11
I think in regards to registries, I am less comfortable with monetary registries. My fiance and I find that we don’t have a need for a lot of things but we are doing a traditional registry. I think it’s good to give guests options rather than obligating them to a honeymoon or money registry. We don’t go on a lot of vacations, but I can agree with calling our next big trip a honeymoon. A mini-moon could work too to hold us over with some private time after our wedding. We are thinking of doing a honeymoon 6 months to a year after we get married. We also looked into booking with a travel agent which seems to alleviate some of the costs. However, they wanted us to pay for more than half the cost of the honeymoon package now. Is this normal?
Post # 12
We are delaying ours by 6 weeks. Go for it!
Post # 13
We went on a 5-day mini-moon after our wedding, and then we went on a blowout bucket list vacation 11 months later and called it our honeymoon. I’m very glad we planned it this way. Not only would there have been a money crunch, but in addition we were way to exhausted after the wedding. We didn’t have the energy for a big trip like the safari we took. The mini-moon, a 5-day trip to Maine, really hit the spot at the time.
Post # 14
@lovelylight99: we didn’t go on our honeymoon right away and i kind of wish we did.
for our “honeymoon” we want to go to england, italy and spain for a month or so. we still haven’t gone.
we travelled back to ontario for our wedding (we have a home in mexico). we stayed for 5 day after the wedding at my mother’s house. we enjoyed visiting family and my mom’s house is huge (4 storeys and we had the 2nd floor all to ourselves) but it still wasn’t honeymoon-like.
the night before we flew out, we stayed at a nice hotel near the airport. i have to say, it was wonderful. we were by ourselves finally. no family commitments. even the hotel surprised us with complimentary wine and chocolate covered strawberries.
we settled back into everyday life and i knew that we wouldn’t be able to go on our honeymoon for at least a year due to other commitments. i was feeling let down because i didn’t get the “honeymoon experience”.
a couple months later, we decided to take a mini-moon to tide us over. we went to a resort in the maya riviera for a week. it was wonderful but it just felt like another vacation.
sorry for the long story but i just want you to know how i felt about it. that one night in the airport hotel was the best night (besides the wedding night) of our honeymoon stage.
if you do decide to delay a honeymoon, i would strongly suggest arranging a few nights in a hotel somewhere (or even locally) to decompress from the wedding and enjoy the company of your new spouse before going back to your every day life.
Post # 15
We are delaying our honeymoon. We got married October 13th and are honeymooning next July for 18 days. We are both teachers (my husband works full time so he had to go back to work). We went on a ‘mini moon’ for two nights in Niagara Falls to relax alone. It was nice. We were engaged this past February so I had to make a decision, either get married this year and delay honeymoon, or delay wedding. I really wanted to get married this year so that was the only option. We are going away for one night for New Years Eve to the States and then possibly back to the hotel we got engaged at in February 2013. It’s tough to wait, but I know we will really appreciate it then.
Post # 16
I am convinced that delaying the honeymoon (hopefully for no more than 6 months to a year) is the best option for us at this time. We are getting married in Buffalo, New York and we will be near Canada so I figure we can take a little “mini-moon” to the Candian side of the Falls for a few days after we get married. I have never been and heard it is a lot more beautiful than the American side of the Falls. I feel the same way, it is either get married next summer or go on a honeymoon beforehand and delay the wedding. It is more important to me that we get some alone time after the wedding to decompress and enjoy one another as spouses before heading back to reality and our jobs. 🙂 It’s kind of funny, out of all the wedding planning things I have done so far the honeymoon is the only thing I haven’t focused a ton of attention to. 🙂 Maybe this is telling me something…LOL 🙂