Post # 1
Ugh! I’m looking for opinions I guess. My DH and I have been ttc for a few months now and have had no luck after a miscarriage earlier this year. After looking at the calendar, I realize that if we get our bfp in December, I’d be due late August of next year which would put me right at the beginning of the academic school year. I teach college and haven’t been with my university very long. Would it would be odd to have someone cover my classes for the first 6 weeks of a semester? I imagine that students would likely find it odd if I return in the middle of the semester.
I know the “smart” thing to do would be to wait a few months, but I just REALLY don’t want to do that. Anyone been in this situation before? What did you do?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t delay for a few months. There’s no guarantee you’d get KU on the first try, and then you’d have to wait again to try to get a baby due during late spring or summer!
Post # 4
I also want to TTC soon, but my husband and I have decided to wait a little while because of our careers. As the PP suggested, there is no guarantee that you’ll get pregnant on the first try, but if you do, then what? 3 months is only 90 days or so, and those 3 months can really make a big difference in your career. I totally understand how you’re feeling, but when the baby is 1 year old, you’ll probably think back, I could have totally waited 3 months. Hope it all works out. 🙂
Post # 5
@BrandNewBride: That’s exactly my fear. I could end up playing the waiting game over and over in order to time a winter or summer break baby.
@LBeeLove: You’re right about 3 months not being that long in the grand scheme of things. I’m just so darn impatient right now. Ha!
Thanks for your replies ladies!
Post # 6
I’m in a similar situation–I also teach at university level and should theoretically be starting a new job in August in some yet-to-be determined location. To further complicate, my husband is ALSO on the academic job market. He’s got a better shot at a tenure-track position anyway, so we’re just going to keep trying and see what happens! If I get pregnant in the next 2-3 months, I’ll probably postpone my job search and start teaching again part-time in the spring, whereever we are. If I don’t get pregnant by early February-ish, we’ll probably pause until April so that I can teach the fall semester.
Your situation is, of course, different because you already have a job. I’d say that you should go ahead and try…and if it happens, it happens. The students will deal, and so will the administration! 🙂
Best of luck to you!
Post # 7
If I was in the same situation and over 32 or 33, I probably would not delay and would TTC right away. But if I was 27 or something like that I probably would wait!
Good luck to you!
Post # 8
@Elayne51: Sorry if you’ve already thought of this, but I’d find it hard to return to work 6 weeks after giving birth. My opinion is if you get pregnant you should take a decent length of time (like an entire semester or year) unpaid maternity leave. You should check you university policy and your country’s laws on this, they might be required to offer it.
In answer to your actual question, I wouldn’t delay and it will all work out.
Post # 9
Thanks so much for your replies! I will be 32 in a few months and don’t really want to wait too much longer.
I guess I’ll give it a try this month and if I don’t get a bfp in December, I won’t be too bummed about it.
Post # 10
We are sort of in the same boat. We’ve been TTC for a few months, and my husband is a teacher. If we got our BFP when we first started, timing would have been amazing and coincided with his summer off. However, if we get pregnant now, it’s terrible timing as it puts it right in the beginning of the school year. That said, we didn’t stop trying. We feel that for us, it’s more important to get pregnant than it is to time it right.
Post # 11
For me, I wouldn’t delay it. I’m the same age as you and feel that every month is important. You never know how long it could really take to get another bfp (sorry about your miscarriage) and I wouldn’t put trying on hold. I know it seems like bad timing for the school schedule but really it only affects one school year, and just a few months really.
Post # 12
@Elayne51: I’m a high school teacher (and so is DH) and I’ve had the exact same dilemma going through my head. I finally decided to just go for it and see what happens. Like PP have said, there’s no guarantee that it will happen right away, and I don’t want to “waste” perfectly good months of TTC waiting for the exact perfect month. Ideally I would want to wait until next August so that I could have a May baby and then have all summer off. I do NOT want to wait that long! 🙂
Post # 13
Thanks so much for your replies! It’s nice to hear others in the same boat and deciding to go ahead and try. Honestly, if I were in my 20’s I’d consider waiting, but now (although I don’t think 31 is old at all) it’s like I want to jump on every opportunity to try.
Post # 14
Don’t wait to TTC! You don’t know how long it will take to actually get pregnant. Also, getting pregnant is not as easy as we always once thought it was when we were all young and naive. In fact, I regret VERY MUCH not TTCing earlier. Because now it is nerve-wrecking!