(Closed) Delayed PWD?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m not married yet but a friend of mine just celebrated her one year anniversary and she expressed the same thing.  She called it ‘post-partum’ and I can totally see why you and her and so many others may experience it.  For the most part, the engagement process is exicting, and not only that, its time consuming.  It gets to a point where most of your free time or free thought gets taken over by the wedding and in a few short hours its over!  That’s crazy!  Maybe you can devote that time and energy into something else to make yourself stress less about it. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I feel a little of the same way.  We’ve been married a little under 3 months and only in the past few days am I feeling sad that I will never have a wedding again.  My husband, for the first month or two, kept saying we should throw another party like our wedding because it was so much fun and everyone had a great time.  I told him I’m in as long as I don’t have to plan it.  I was just too stressed out leading up to it and a little bitter he didn’t help out more and bitter I wasn’t feeling all that well the day of my wedding.  🙁 

Everyday I take the El to work and pass by The House of Brides store and every week they change the manequins in the window to have new wedding dresses…talk about making yourself second guess your decisions!  But you have to realize that it was the dress you chose, that you looked beautiful, and sometimes you gott let by-gones be by-gones.  Ya know?  P.S. August15 – I saw some of your pictures and you were gorgeous.  LOVED your dress. 🙂

I have found that planning our 1 year anniversary, as well as my 30th birthday party excursion to Mexico in December, has kept me focused on more fun things and doesn’t let me dwell on the wedding and the shoulda/woulda/coulda things of the wedding.  I really am excited for the life I am living with my husband.  It was good before, but I have to admit, it is even better now…for sentimental reasons. 

So, do you have any plans for a 1 year anniversary trip?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

August, I think that’s just a sign you need more things to look forward to stat.  For example, agree on no presents for christmas or valentines or whatever and blow hundred on super fancy restaurant with seven courses!  Amazingly fun, good excuse to dress up and experience everyone should have.  Etc. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Oops, typo, I meant hundreds of dollars.  Depending on where you live might be as little as two. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You have a vow renewal ceremony to look forward to?  Maybe children?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh my gosh, this thread couldn’t have come at a better time. We’ve been married for over three months now, and I’m just starting to feel it.

So some close friends of ours are getting engaged … like, tomorrow. The groom is out of town and had the ring send to our place. He told me that when it came, he wanted me to open it to make sure it was all good. Well, it just came, and I opened it, and the ring is STUNNING. I got a huge ping of jealousy because, I hate saying it, the ring is kind of better than mine. The groom spent a fortune on it, so it’s understandable why, but yeah, I just saw it and almost cried. Not sure why. I feel so foolish!

I’m so elated for the couple. They are sweet people who deserve a beautiful wedding and marriage. But yeah, I just started to feel jealous out of nowhere because they’re just beginning this exciting new phase in their life, and we’re done with it. When our wedding was over, I was SO happy. I was tired of the stress and the constant planning and the family drama. I’ve been relishing in being NOT busy. It’s been awesome up until I saw that ring! And it kind of made me a little sad. And I feel awful for saying it!

We have a lot  to look forward to in the next few y ears, so I keep focusing on that. And overall, I’m still happy I’m not planning our wedding again. I guess I just miss the excitement of it all.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mine was surely delayed. Shoot, my wedding was about 1.5 years ago already, and I still make myself sick thinking of my dress situation.  The hubby agreed we can have a HUGE anniversary party when we his our 10 or 15th year, so I figured that time around I can find a snazzy dress that I love! 

Mostly, though, I try really hard to focus on more positives & even helping others with party planning (even if it isn’t a wedding).

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I miss my wedding so much. I got married about 3 months ago. I was really crazy sad in my head about my wedding being over about a month ago. I still miss it but its getting better. Now I am workign on my wedding Album and finding a china cabinet to put all my stuff in. : ) So Im still a lil in wedding land! I love being married though. Its the best feeling ever!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re right, the photo album is overwhelming!  That’s why I haven’t worked on Blurb books for our parents, it’s just sooo much work and I’m so stinking lazy.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Aug15 you guys just need to instead focus on having kids 🙂

j/k OBV none of my business, just had to throw in the plug because THEY WOULD BE SO CUTE. You two are the cutest couple ever, seriously!!!!

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