Delicate Family Situation….I want to invite my uncle.

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My mom’s two siblings (a brother and a sister) are also not invited to my wedding. It sounds like a very simliar situation, where we broke off contact with them after my grandmother passed away. I’ve decided to leave the decision up to my mom, because I know as the bride I will hardly see them if they’re there, while my mom will have to deal with them the whole day and possibly days before and after. It’s not a situation I would want to put her in if she doesn’t agree to it.

It’s a tough decision, one that you definitely can’t make without talking to your mom. Obviously the last thing you want is for your mom not to attend.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@lillivewire87:  Invite your (nice) uncle, let your mom know you are doing so so that she is not blindsided.  Maybe this will get them talking and on the mend!  

Post # 6
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539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Speaking as someone whose family get togethers could be on Jerry Springer, I say invite them. The issues between your mom and uncles are just that: between them. If she chooses to miss her own daughter’s wedding, that’s on her. Tell her you understand her position,  but your uncle is trying to reunite and you choose to invite him.

 

 

Post # 7
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906 posts
Busy bee

let’s play devils avacte. i see your point of view on inviting your uncle because this is your day and not inviting him cause it makes your mom uncomfortable. Now my mom dosnt talk to her dad or sisters but she sticks it up at family gatherings for me. on the other hand there is a family in my old neighborhood that I can’t stand due to her daughter cleaning my private parts ten years ago and if my mom invited to them to a event that’s for me then i would be upset and feel uncomfortable. I do want to ask you why dosnt your mom like the uncle you want to invite? 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

@lillivewire87:  wow. I feel bad for your mom and what she went through but everyone makes mistakes. My grandpa didn’t have a good relationship with my mom but he has a good relationship with me. I guess at this point invite the uncle. He’s family and this is your day. If he wasn’t a relative then I would side with your mom but since he’s family and marriage is about the two families turning into one. my opinion is families are joint when your married. 

Post # 10
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906 posts
Busy bee

@lillivewire87:  let me add that if your mom truly loves you then she can stick it out for one day. That’s what a true family member is. 

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